I'm all too familiar with this type of scenario. Despite the differences bwtween my wife and I when it comes to smoking, we still ended up together and are very happy.

1st thing I learned was to not talk about weed around her. She obviously wasn't comfortable with the subject and I didn't want that to turn into her telling me to not smoke anymore. So if I got some good stuff or whatever, I'd restrict the conversation to only friends of mine that I knew smoked.

2nd, make time for her. My wife was used to watching her brother smoke; he'd blaze and just sit like a bump on the log. When I blaze, I like to go out and do things so I always dragged her along. Some things she liked, others she didn't care for. But I wasn't creating a situation where I would smoke and not want to do anything, leaving her bored.

3rd, Don't smoke around her and tell her you smoked. This probably helped me the most. I would just step into the hallway and smoke and then go into the bathroom and clean up. She never would know unless I didn't Visene up or something.

In general, I've learned when dealing with a significant other that doesn't like herb, the best strategy is just never let the two meet and keep everything separate.