I have to agree....if she loves you then she'll accept the things you do. Your not imposing what you do on her, yoru just asking to be able to continue with something you like that was a part of your life before her. I would explain to her why you do it, explain how you'd like her to be in your life and that you would't want to choose it over her, but on the other hand she shouldn't make you either. You stopped for a while, that was her request, you obliged...so now, she has to give a little too. Relationships are give and take 50/50 and so far it doesn't really sound like she is giving/taking your feelings into conisderation. If she doesn't understand where you are coming from then maybe you should explain to her that she doesn't understand you or that she isn't willing to understand you. I can totall understand your saying you only feel comfy when high--my husband is the same way and I compeletely understand and support him. Hope it all works out...nooen should be made to change unless they choose too.