what to do?!

[ilovebecky]

I made a promise to Becky(girlfriend of about 1 year) that I would stop smoking and doing all drugs for a while. I had no problem giving up other drugs and as for weed, I needed a break anyways. So giving up weed was real easy but I'm deffinatly ready to start smoking again. It's only been about a month or so but it's enough time for me. She still doesnt want me to smoke and I'm even scared to bring it up with her cuz she gets pissed cuz she hates the shit I do. It's drivin' me nuts not being able to smoke and I was just wondering what you guys think I should do? She already thinks I smoke behind her back anyways so maybe I should? She doesnt understand that its more than just getting high. Its very relaxing and I usually only feel comfortable when I'm high. She wouldnt understand that but what should I say to her? Anyone have a similar situation?
-Thanks

ilovebecky Reviewed by ilovebecky on 04-06-2006. what to do?! I made a promise to Becky(girlfriend of about 1 year) that I would stop smoking and doing all drugs for a while. I had no problem giving up other drugs and as for weed, I needed a break anyways. So giving up weed was real easy but I'm deffinatly ready to start smoking again. It's only been about a month or so but it's enough time for me. She still doesnt want me to smoke and I'm even scared to bring it up with her cuz she gets pissed cuz she hates the shit I do. It's drivin' me nuts not Rating: 5

[geonagual]

Tell her the reasons you smoke weed
and that you love her
if she dosent accept it
that is her deal
not yours
but it is better to be honest
than to sneak around
Good Luck

[ilovebecky]

I would feel terrible if I went behind her back but I really want to and I doubt she'll be up to it if I talk to her.

[higher4hockey]

if you only feel comfortable when you're high, something ain't right. you should feel comfortable around her. in my opinion mate, she aint the right girl for you, the right girl (if she doesn't smoke) should make you forget allll about smoking.

[C4nn4Bliss]

demand more play

[mom2calebnjoshie]

I have to agree....if she loves you then she'll accept the things you do. Your not imposing what you do on her, yoru just asking to be able to continue with something you like that was a part of your life before her. I would explain to her why you do it, explain how you'd like her to be in your life and that you would't want to choose it over her, but on the other hand she shouldn't make you either. You stopped for a while, that was her request, you obliged...so now, she has to give a little too. Relationships are give and take 50/50 and so far it doesn't really sound like she is giving/taking your feelings into conisderation. If she doesn't understand where you are coming from then maybe you should explain to her that she doesn't understand you or that she isn't willing to understand you. I can totall understand your saying you only feel comfy when high--my husband is the same way and I compeletely understand and support him. Hope it all works out...nooen should be made to change unless they choose too.

[ilovebecky]

She does make me forget about weed but I cant be with her all the time. Thanks mom for your response. I still dont think she will let me and I would rather be with her than smoke but I just wish I could do both.

[Jeff Spicoli]

point out her faults, just for the hell of it. tell her her breath smells like codfish and she needs to brush her teeth more or you are going to dump her

[ilovebecky]

well that doesnt help.

[Jeff Spicoli]

well shit, go be pussy wipped all you want.