Are all moms like this?

[soxsuk6432]

Sorry for the long post but I'm really pissed off. Maybe I hold my mom to to high of a standard or something but it seems like she has bipolar or some weird ass psychological condition. Because there are alot of wierd things she does that just don't seem normal. I understand moms aren't perfect but is it normal for moms to be vindictive to the point of threatening to send you to military school because I can't sleep. (I have insmonia but my mom refuses to let me take medication to help me sleep) She tries to make her life out to be really bad to like one time she was yelling at me because I can't sleep at home but I sleep during all my classes. And then she goes on and tries to make me look like I am a drug addict who is always looking for my next fix. And the she said I deserve to go to military school. I asked her why she thinks this and she said it's because I don't do my chores and have trouble sleeping at home so all I do is sleep in class. She acts like I'm a trouble maker but the wierd thing is I get good grades in school and I don't get in trouble except for one in school suspension (for wearing a hood in the building for god's sakes). I can't even be around her anymore without her treating me like some criminal. Does anyone else have a mom like this or know someone like this. If so how can I deal with her when she drives me this fucking crazy.

soxsuk6432 Reviewed by soxsuk6432 on 04-04-2006. Are all moms like this? Sorry for the long post but I'm really pissed off. Maybe I hold my mom to to high of a standard or something but it seems like she has bipolar or some weird ass psychological condition. Because there are alot of wierd things she does that just don't seem normal. I understand moms aren't perfect but is it normal for moms to be vindictive to the point of threatening to send you to military school because I can't sleep. (I have insmonia but my mom refuses to let me take medication to help me Rating: 5

[Oneironaut]

No, not all moms are like this. Sometimes I feel really lucky to have pot-smoking hippie parents. I had a friend with a crazy ass mom like that though. He ended up moving in with me and my hippie family. :stoned:

[chronic boom]

dude, thats completely harsh.
My mom has never cracked down on me like that. I mean I wasn't the best kid in highschool, sure I got good grades but I smoked alot of dope and experimented with some pretty stong lsd in my senior year, but me and my mom (and dad) always had this mutual respect thing going: that is they respected my freedom of choice and expression and I respected thier advice and help keeping me in line so I didn't fuck up my life.
If your mom is tripping out because you can't sleep then thats wierd. maybe try leaving home for a week or so and see how it gos. If she freaks out completely maybe its time to think about your life. If she comes around and wants to talk to you like an adult then go for it.
oh yeah, how old are you?

[delta9420]

No, my parents weren't (aren't) like that, though I haven't lived with them for a few years. They would both blaze up with me though.

My first question would be though, are you "a drug addict who is always looking for [your] next fix"??? If so then she probably has some valid points. But if not, then perhaps your mutual communication is just awry. Request to be examined medically for your insomnia, then when a physician diagnoses it, you can fall back on the "medical condition" card. If an MD recommends medication and she won't let you take it, she is probably violating the law (depending on what state/country you live in and how old you are). She may even be honestly just stressed out. Try to lighten the load if it seems harsh on her. Finally, a pathologic condition like bipolar (manic depressive disorder) is also possible, but one you can't really do much about until you move away. Sadly when a parent suffers from psychiatric/psychological impairment, the children are either removed from custody if the severety of symptoms warrants it, or left to suffer with pain in the ass parents. Good luck...

[soxsuk6432]

I'm 14. The reason she got all mad is because one of my teachers called and said I was disrupting class by sleeping which is completely irrtional and impossible by anyone who has any sense of logic. All I do is sleep I don't bug anyone. Really she is disrupting class by taking the time out to wake me up knowing full well I won't take notes.When I explained to the teacher that I have insomnia and can't sleep she said the same damn thing my mom said. Why don't you rerad a book. I told her that because I had a B in her class that I wasn't gpoing to take notes because I already know Geometry it's extremely easy and I have a B which is good enough for me. She said she can't let me sleep which is untrue because I talked to the administrator and he saidf that if a teacher doesn't care about students sleeping there is no rule against it.
If I left for a week or two she said she would call child services and file a "out of control teenager report" I'm not sure if such a thing exists but she said they would remove me from my home. I don't want that though because as wierd and annoying and crazy my mom is I love her more than anything.

[soxsuk6432]

No, my parents weren't (aren't) like that, though I haven't lived with them for a few years. They would both blaze up with me though.

My first question would be though, are you "a drug addict who is always looking for [your] next fix"??? If so then she probably has some valid points. But if not, then perhaps your mutual communication is just awry. Request to be examined medically for your insomnia, then when a physician diagnoses it, you can fall back on the "medical condition" card. If an MD recommends medication and she won't let you take it, she is probably violating the law (depending on what state/country you live in and how old you are). She may even be honestly just stressed out. Try to lighten the load if it seems harsh on her. Finally, a pathologic condition like bipolar (manic depressive disorder) is also possible, but one you can't really do much about until you move away. Sadly when a parent suffers from psychiatric/psychological impairment, the children are either removed from custody if the severety of symptoms warrants it, or left to suffer with pain in the ass parents. Good luck...

I'm not a drug addict whose always lookign for the next fix which is why it bogglesd my mind so much as to why she thinks I am. And she had me examined but said that I would sell the pills to people for money to spend on weed or that I would take them to get high.
I've tried showing her I smoke weed and that I have no interest in cocaine, meth, or heroin but she still regularly accuses me of being a tweaker (at least once a week) and I've never tried or even touched or been near meth at all.

[delta9420]

"out of control teenager report"

Really what it would be is a juvenile delinquency report. It basically says you are a kid, and you aren't doing what your parent(s) are telling you to do even though they feel it is in your best interest and deleterious circumstances may arise otherwise. If she is just being bitchy, sit her down and tell her you want her attention and respect long enough for a mature conversation with her. State your points, explain she is putting a lot of stress on you and how you feel. Shy away from trying to "talk her in to buying your line" and just stick to the fact she is making your life harder than it has to be, and you will try to compromise if she will ease up on you.

Finally, if she knows you smoke weed, and you aren't on any hard drugs, tell her to buy a tox-5 drug test kit (tests 5 most common drugs of abuse: Amphetamine, Cocaine, THC, Opioids, Benzodiazepines). You can take it at home, and it will show the only substance of abuse in your system is THC. Meth, Coke, and Heroin would all show up as their respective category...

[imagoober]

sounds like your screwed, you have to do what she says or get in trouble! by what i think of her from what you wrote, i dont think shes going to listen to you but its worth a try. most parents dont take 14 year olds that seriously, and they think they know whats best so it looks like you might have a hard road ahead of you! good luck!

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I'm not a drug addict whose always lookign for the next fix which is why it bogglesd my mind so much as to why she thinks I am. And she had me examined but said that I would sell the pills to people for money to spend on weed or that I would take them to get high.
I've tried showing her I smoke weed and that I have no interest in cocaine, meth, or heroin but she still regularly accuses me of being a tweaker (at least once a week) and I've never tried or even touched or been near meth at all.

First thing is, get your ass in gear and start getting better grades. Oh, and I don't wanna hear "I do get good grades, I get straight A's, I just hate school so that's why I sleep". We all hated high school, get over it.

The fact of the matter is, unless you can show her 100% that cannabis has absolutely no effect on your life, don't believe her to expect differently, and since she's feeding you and keeping a roof over your head, you might need to work extra hard if you want to keep smoking.

I understand why it upsets you that she accuses you of other drugs, but really, look at the media. If your mom doesn't smoke, everything in the world tells her it is the worst drug there is and she has no reason to think otherwise. Just trust me on this one, if you start getting calls from your teacher saying you're an integral member of the class and are an asset to the learning environment, she'll be a lot more open to believing you're a good kid. You know how I know? When I was 14, that's what my teachers said about me. I was a huge freaking nerd, but I was a huge weed smoking nerd.

Good luck, and I hope everything works out for the best. Oh, and do the dishes. Moms love that.:thumbsup:

[Stedric]

My girlfriend's mom is like that. A lot of the time she's really nice and I genuinely like her...but then she does things like scream at her daughter for having strep throat. I remember once she tried to make me take her to the doctor's office in town (an hour's bus ride and I didn't have a license...I was 16 at the time). She was yelling at my gf the whole way home in the car, and my hands were shaking I was so angry. I'm not a very easily angered person, so thats saying something.

My friend Jessi's mom is also psycho. She keeps freaking out at Jessi and accusing her of being a drug dealing slut. Jessi smokes weed with me occasionaly and gets drunk on occasion, but she doesn't sell weed and she's not a slut. Maybe a quote would best express her mom's insanity:

"I know you're on drugs, Jessi, I can smell the "E" on you!"

Need I say more?