Damn Del, a bit harsh aren't ya? That's cool, just trying to get your point across.

Anyhow, I've been smoking for 23 years, since I was 13yo. Since I started smoking I've earned two bachelor's degrees (graduating with honors), learned a new language, and am now a professional in the semiconductor industry. Any of the kids on this board would take one look at me and figure I'm some straight, tight-ass adult. No one would look at me and think I smoke weed.

Quite a few of my friends from school, whom I used to smoke with, have also become quite successful. Some have failed miserably in life but that didn't surpise any of us. The bottom line is that if a person has what it takes to be successful, it will happen whether or not they smoke. If they don't have what it takes, simply not smoking is not going to make it happen.

I'm also a parent and can understand your point of view. Fortunately, my little one is only 2 years old right now, so my big issue is potty training, not whether or not she smokes. My suggestion to you is not to forbid your son from using marijuana. It won't work. He'll still use it and the deceit/ anger that results will drive a wedge between you. Instead, just talk to him about your concerns. If you don't approve, let him know, but also let him know you aren't going to forbid him from using it. Like others have already mentioned, compromise and tell him you don't mind if he does it on weekends but during the week you want him to focus on school. Hopefully he'll realize your trying to work with him and go along with the plan.