I am a 41 yr old Mother of two and have been smoking since I was 20. I do not do it around my kids (only when they are not home) and my hubby and I both have normal jobs, house, cars etc. My Hubby is an engineer and I work in high tech sales. We do not consider it to be any more dangerous than having a glass of wine at night. We only smoke on weekends and most of our friends have no idea we smoke. We have never used any other 'drugs'. we both started in college and it has never affected my education, career or life.
I am also an artist and my husband plays music. We enjoy it and are hurting no one.