For one I think your a cool Mom... I like the fact that you are seeking advice,I've not been here long ,but don't recall to many who sought the boards for guidance,Kudos...

Your son likes smoking pot more than school,Why???? He is more than likely pulling the wool over your eyes... You do sound a bit lenient,I don't know if that's good or bad... You need him to open up to you and running around finding a solution will widen the gap... More One On One would be my first step...

If this was my task and I thought he was rebelling with pot,,,I would try to make pot a useless tool to rebel with...

Lets get back to the cool Mom,,, I think your son needs to find out how cool you can be... I think he needs to feel you are out for his interest,but instead I believe he feels you are the enemy,again I believe the solution is more one on one and less running around finding a solution...

Is there a dad in this mix??? if so what is his take??? does he care??? is he part of the problem.... Is he there to help???



Good luck cause you gonna need it...

PS: I grew up in a dysfunctional family and smoked pot to escape pain and fear of the future...