Hi, I'm new to these boards.

[orangeman]

Smoking pot greatly impairs your learning abilities.

Didnt I tell you people like to wait for subjects like these to come up so they can say "it fucks up your learning ability?" Bull shit. When I'm high I can concentrate on what ever I have to do like 10 times better than I could ever do sober. In fact studying isnt even boring when I'm high.

[Fabolous]

Smoking pot greatly impairs your learning abilities.

Fuck you man you are so wrong!, i am a heavy smoker with higher B's and A's (before i got kick outta school (Because i moved BTW))

[minnesota man]

Hey Orangeman, that's great that you can hack it. Polaris' 15 yo can't. What I mean by impairing learning is that pot makes you stick to an idea whether it's a good idea or a bad one. Yeah it opens your mind but in my opinion, if grades are not good (high B's and A's), then the kid should quit smoking bud.

Dad, would you consider letting him smoke a joint once in awhile if he maintains good grades?

[minnesota man]

Fab, that's good that you where able to hack it too. Why did you get kicked out of school? That's another thing, schools don't take kindly to kids smoking pot in school.

[PaRanOiD81]

polaris dont listen to del.
he's like the all american generic dad
who cares about the judge.
what's more important is having a good relationship with him.
if he is happy in his life he will automatically want a good future.
once he's content things will improve.
dont be a dorky dad your kid needs you to be understanding
do you smoke yourself?

if hes that, then your the born in east LA dad probably handing your kid a tek9,a 40 and a blunt... wtf kind of shit is that to say?

I myself am not a father but have had the opportunity to raise 3 childern, all of whom are getting to be wonderful people, with no checkered history... nothing of what you speak of anyway and well one thing is right.... your son is smoking for a reason. Trying to find out what the reason is will basically solve your answer to making him stop or at least cut down.

One thing is for sure, he is not putting his priorities in order. Getting high is a reward like the other guy up there said and it is a privilage, one that we can't take for granted. Which is what your son is doing. You want to stop him from smoking, don't give him any money and tell him to improve his behavior and his grades and if he does it then he can get rewarded. But try not to be too harsh or hard on him because crayz kids will just pack up and leave before you know it. I can't really tell if he was raised that way where he would dream of doing that but I guess you should know how to address it. But definately put your foot down, your the adult, not him. if he were to kill someone with your gun, its your fault for letting him.... same thing with weed, if he were to get killed or kill someone, you would be at fault because you knew and did nothing about it.

[God v2.0]

FOR ONE! Pot is against the law and so there are SERIOUS and very REAL repercussions when you get caught, it doesnt matter if the laws are right or not because the consequences are the same either way. You have to be a fucking idiot not to see that.

Polaris, i think that you should be very firm, hit your son as hard as you can and tell him that if he does it again then you're gonna have him arrested, its going to make you son very mad and hes gonna rebel, he will think he is above your authority but he isn't if hes 15 then you own him and you control him so USE THAT AUTHORITY DONT BE A PANSY (have dad do it if you cant)

Dont let the little punk get away with whatever he wants, thats bullshit. You're ruining your son if you just let him do what he wants, he already has a CRIMINAL RECORD at age 15. If i were that kids parent i would beat him to within an inch of his life unless he proved that he was fixing the shit he made of his life.

Now of course you should take that with a grain of salt because im one extreme guy. But you have to lay down the law, if you dont now then you haven't in the past and all that gonna happen is you're gonna release another degenerate with no discipline into society where he is gonna fail, and whos fault is that? YOURS. Take some god damn responsibility, you raised him and let him know that. You put a roof over his head and feed him, don't let him use you and then wind up fucked up.


A more rational solution would be to limit him to only smoking on the weekends AFTER he has proven that he did all his homework. You should set up guidelines for him as well, like he can have a friend over and get high if he reads a book (Get some Kurt Vonnegut, like slaughterhouse 5 or cat's cradle, its fun, entertaining and mind expanding to read books, PLUS it will instill good habits in your son that will enrich his life and make it more worth living for him)

But bottom line don't let the boy control you, or threaten you because YOU are the boss not him (dont lord it over him because it will piss him off but he needs to understand that his actions have SERIOUS consequences)


REAL LIFE IS FUCKING HARD! SO DON'T LET HIM START IT UNPREPARED...

[graph]

I like the book idea. Not a lot of kids these days read, and they really should. Or, I could just be saying this because I'm a huge Vonnegut fan myself. Besides, your son needs morals.

P.S. If you ever plan on coming back to these boards, I'd think we'd all like to really hear how it went.

[geonagual]

You need for him to envision his goals and what it will take to get there. At his age in his life he has already created two of his ways of being. He will learn the 3rd and final way of being when he is set free on his own. So, you still have a chance. Good luck

[robert42]

Be strict with him, lay down the laws, he shouldnt smoke at 15 im sorry any1 who thinks otherwise but u shouldnt be allowing him out its like rewarding him for misbehaving.

lay down the law with him u gotta be firm to be nice.

[TonyD]

For a bunch of potheads a lot of the people here have some very conservative views.