ok!..... i get that now add total...nowwwwww....if you would please take a look at this top i plucked and tell me if you can is it male or female?

this plants is really starting to concern me ....its growing like X2 times faster and getting taller by the day its actually encroaching on my fat round female and im wondering .....now (at least in my eye) i see with i think is male flowers. if someone can confirm i can whip out my reverse and knock this down right now...