What should i do (Big problem)

[SyR1S]

damn bro, u should of just stole like 4 from each bottle...lmfao

thats what id do

[yoda]

well they always say admitting is the first step. and teh way you handled the situation after all teh shit went down, shows that it is a problem for you.

[tootsie roll]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.

You are a huge jerk. This part was pretty sickening. not the fact that I stole pills from someone with cancer or anything like that but ..... You stole a sick womans medication???????????
Yes, you need to get some help asap.

[Kryzco]

I agree with yoda

you can't get help unless you want it, and if you want it solely to save your relationship, its not gonna work

because if that girl breaks up with u, ur gonna go back to those pills for comfort, back at square one

I think you should call her, be honest, and don't look for sympathy because she's gonna be pissed as hell and probably tell you to fuck off, you gotta be a man about this and take responsibilty for what you did and try to make your amends, even if your girl doesn't take you back, you still need help, and you should try to get it

you running away made the situation much worse, but I'm not raggin on you for it, I've been there

Wow dude....

My best advice?

Call your girlfriend... tell her you love her, and you need help.

There's a moment when you have to become a man... your time is up dude... I mean, Sir.

Best,

-turtle420

i think this is one of the smartest things I heard

because of my religion I won't suggest going to a church, because IMO i believe it is wrong to try to make God solve your problem when you are the one who brought it upon yourself

BTW when you talk to her try to let her know that you are sincere about your apology, and that the drugs made you become that, that it isn't you, because from my experience, drugs do make you do shit you would have never thought you would

Stay strong man, hope all goes well for u

[GluteusMaximus]

The reason we don't play with matchbox cars and tonka trucks when we're over 10 years old is because we simply outgrew these activities. The kids we play with also outgrew these activites so there's no reason for us to continue playing with those child toys. As we get older and our values change, our "toys" are replaced with things much more appealing to our adult lives. As children we can't see the value in investing in a savings account for a car we can buy when we're old enough to drive. This is much like relationships. Convincing you to save and invest in your relationship is like trying to convey to a child the importance of saving one day for a car when they're much too young to see the value in transportation. You are still "playing" with a toy that you enjoy (pills) and have discovered that if you don't already own them, you can swipe them from somebody else.

The problem....You have created a situation with your girlfriend that needs addressed immediately. Her finding out that you are doing drugs is nothing compared to the damage you did when you embarrased her in front of those who trusted her, and then you abandoned her to deal with them alone. If this is the girl you could spend your whole life with, then you should begin to invest in that relationship a little more. One day you will outgrow the drugs. The question is, will you outgrow them before or after you break up with her? If you outgrow them before you destroy your trust and confidence with your girlfriend, then one day you'll get to look back and thank your lucky stars you gave up your tonka toy for something valuable that you'll never outgrow....a loving relationship! The alternative is you will one day outgrow those drugs and not have that relationship to take it's place.

It's all a matter of perspective. Getting over an addiction is like accelerating your growing up. Just like the others said, you'll quit when you want to. By this I mean you will outgrow the drugs, not just "want" to outgrow them.

Here is what I would do. First off call the folks she was babysitting for and apologise to them and make sure they are aware that your girlfriend knew nothing of your actions and clear her name completely. Protect her like you should and would for the rest of your life. This will be difficult and you probably won't get much sympathy from them. Second, call her and apologise for embarrasing her and putting her in that situation. This is not about you, it's about what you did to her, so don't offer any excuses for your actions. Your drug problem is not the real issue, it's the damage you do because of the drug problem that is the issue. Third, grow up! Stealing is what children do. Running away from confrontation is also what kids do. Believe it or not, when you get older, nothing will scare you except being alone. Don't find yourself looking back at the relationship you could have had if you only had the foresight to see the true value in it. Additionally, women value men they can brag about and show off to their families and friends. They want someone who is a pillar of strength that they can lean on or come to when frightened. These are women "toys". We're lucky they think of us as their prized possessions and compare us to other husbands/boyfriends. If she's embarrased of you or sees nothing but weakness in you, she will trade you in for something she can be proud of.

Just remember when you're not sure of what you should do, imagine yourself 20 years older, married to the woman you love, enjoying the building of your lives together and think of what it takes to get to that point. The drugs seem like child toys by comparison.

GM

[turtle420]

because of my religion I won't suggest going to a church, because IMO i believe it is wrong to try to make God solve your problem when you are the one who brought it upon yourself

Howdy Kryzco, (<<- like Torog! )
Well, I don't believe in church either... but I don't think this is the time to ask him to revel against society...

I'm with you with solving your OWN problems.... but, this kids needs prayer. He needs prayer, worshipping, cleaning the windows, he needs to read the bible... he needs a church.

Preferably a Mormon church.

[chisme]

So after a week of spring break back in my home town I return to my college town to settle down and get prepared to go back to school. My girlfriend calls me up and says she has made dinner reservations and she would pick me up at 5. So she comes and picks me up at 5, but instead of going to dinner she tricks me into going babysitting with her. So we arrive at the person we are babysitting for (which I didnâ??t like because I was high at the time not knowing we were going babysitting and I get anti social when I am high around strangers) so I just started playing with the kids instead of introducing myself and talking with the parents, which is fine I guess. So they leave and my gf (Katie) makes them Mac & cheese which was actually pretty dam good and after that we all sat down to watch â??Robotsâ?� so about 8 at night the kids are getting sleepy so we put them to bed and read them sum stories and shit all goes well and they fall asleep. Now I hadnâ??t seen my girl in over a week and the parents were not guna be home tell bar time (3:30 ish) so I was guna try and put the moves onâ?¦.but she falls asleep. So I am sitting there bored as fuck. So I decided to snoop around, im a junkie and I have a problem but I donâ??t have time to get help I am busy with school and I love my girl friend to much to check myself in. I mean it gets so bad I canâ??t even control myself from taking other ppls stuff. So I start going threw there house not finding anything to interesting tell I get into the bathroom (I love pills) and found a bottle of tylonal 3 with codien, Percasets, Vicodin, and something I have always wanted to try but could never get a hold of Oxycotten. So now I am all excited and I pocket them quickly not even thinking twice. I go and sit back down and watch my girl sleep until about 3 when the parents arrive back home. We say are good bys and my gf gets paid and we leave. About half way home we get a phone call from the people we babysat for demanding we come back, but for no apparent reason (Tho I put 2 and 2 together and started freaking out) I couldnâ??t ditch the pills because im an addict tho I was sure thatâ??s why she was having us come back, and even if I had it in me to ditch them my gf knows nothing about me doing drugs and is against them at all costs. So we arrive back at there house and she asks us to empty our pockets (I had the pills in my coat pocket which I left in the car) so I emptied my pockets and they asked Katie if she had stolen there prescription drugs and the parents were getting angry and questioning her hardcore and then they did the same to me. I couldnâ??t take it anymore so I told the father to come with me I wanted to talk to him so I brought him outside and took the pills out of my coat pocket and handed them to him and at that very second he punches me right across the face and grabs my shirt and says get your ass back in the house and give these to my wife. Now if I wanted to I could have beat the fuck out of that man but I just didnâ??t have it in me at that very moment I was not worried about giving the pills to his wife but giving the pills to his wife and having my gf that I love with every inch of my hart see me hand the pills to her so I begged and pleaded with the man telling him how sorry I was, but still he insisted that I return the pills to his wife while my gf stands and watchs. I did have the balls to do this because I no it would be over with my gf. So I took off running, now they live in bumfuck nowhere in sum bluffs and im not familiar with this town yet so I just start runningâ?¦running from my problems like I always end up doing. Just as I get reception on my cell phone it goes dead (now if thatâ??s not a message from god saying â??Fuck you, you walk your ass 20 miles to your fuckin house you gutless son of a bitchâ?�). I can tell tho my gf is searching the roads for me tho because a red car just like hers keeps going around in circles but every time I see it I just hide in the woods cause I donâ??t want our relationship to be over. So I walk my ass back to my house in 10 degree weather, took 4 hours to walk to my houseâ?¦. And the whole way home there was a steady trickle of tears running down my face, not because I stole pills from someone that has cancer or anything like that but because I know its over with my girlfriend. So when I get to my house I plug my phone in to charge thinking my gf has called my phone 8 billion times wondering where I am and whatâ??s going onâ?¦but nothing no calls, that broke my heart the most. I havnâ??t been able to get the courage to call her and ask her to forgive me. Now I know I have a problem and it sucks because its so dam hard to fix but I am a starting to think I am a pathological liar and a thief. I love my girlfriend and I want to spend every minute with her and I know she feels the same way and I know she would walk threw fire to get me but I just cant do it I cant keep putting her threw my fuckups my bullshit my drama.

I donâ??t know why I am writing this but I just have to get it out and ask for advice on what I should do. Plz donâ??t flame only reasonable advice plz.

ok at first i was just gonnasn post a stupid message saying you a wanker for taking the pills and rooting throu other people houses but then i saw the bit at the bottom so im preparing myxelf to take this from your point-of-view.








advice (what i think u should do to help yourself)


go tot he peoples house tomorro (the peoples u stole from) swallow your pride and i know the fear is in the back of your mind but dont think of it just yet. now knock on the door and when they answer just say:

''look sir i know you dont wanna see me again but i just came alll the way back here walking to say well...i sorry i have a problem and i didnt control it im very sorry....'' now you could go even further and tell them about your problem if their willing to listen (probabky not tou)

if they guy gets violent with you thats fair enough u tried to say sorry after a calm down period to show you relly are sorry. so remember the fear and use it on him. not full on dont hurt him just put him on the floor and walk away and say im sorry sir but i tried. goodbye

tell your gf you have someproblem and u didnt wanna say nothing because you thought she might reject you..if she cares the slightest the fact you have prob she doesnt care about it ITS YOUR SHE LOVES...if not then trustr me your better off without epecially if their not there during times of need.

in the end u returned the pills........but still man i gtta say it and i knwo its not wha u wanna hear but i dont think the husband did wrong hitting you ..cmon you rooted through another persons house.....i would have done worse to you mate no offence but i would'ave.

geuss u can just say your sorry but admit it man u fooked up bad.

all u can do is try and out those mistakes right.
dont beat -yourself up to much we all make mistakes. i stole from someone when i was young and i nearly died as a result (i have a scar) but i didnt originaly steal from them it was a sorta mistamena(sp?) u knopw a guy said he say me do it when in fact i was somewhere else with another friend but they beleive him so to them i did steal.......that affected me and no-one dares call me a theif now because if some menthions theif these days your marked as a theif even if you've never stole in your life.. so if someone even mentions as a joke oo chris would nick it......i lose my nut...daying that shit can just get the wrong people in trouble because other peiople get the wrong end of the stick.


chisme's final though:


go say sorry its all you can do....and hope they accept i cant say you havent done something that bad..but the fact is what u did was one of the worst u abused trust and loves itself........i hope they can manage to forgive u. but its gonna be a loooong road.

[chisme]

Howdy Kryzco, (<<- like Torog! )
Well, I don't believe in church either... but I don't think this is the time to ask him to revel against society...

thank you

[chisme]

well firstly take all the pills, secondly... u ruined alot of shit for your girlfriend...

i think instead of making her feel sorry for the addict u are u really ort to be trying to make things up to her, and doing what it takes to keep her. Even if it means giving up drugs,,

there i said it

lol this guy has a point.







does finding car insurance drive ya craaaaazee!!! (scottish accent)


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[Kryzco]

I'm not asking him to revel, its up to him what he chooses to do

its just my opinion

It works for some people

I dunno I just really have this thing against AA kind of programs how they tell you put all your faith in god because, again just my opinion, he wasn't the one who put the pills in your mouth, you did it, so what makes it ok to make god the one to carry the burden of your recovery

I'm not saying that him going to church is not the right route to go, maybe it is? I wouldn't know but I meant more like I as in myself, giving advice to a person, wouldn't tell them to go to church, but I wasn't trying to throw the idea out the window

hope that made sense