Quote Originally Posted by Fengzi
I understand what you are saying Daima, and agree with most of it. And, I used the example of my wife giving me head only to illustrate a point, not because I thought anyone was advocating it. I guess I just didn't explain my point well enough.

Sex, drinking, marijuana use, etc. are adult activities. Educating them about these activities, and being open and honest with them, is definitely the best approach. That doesn't mean you should involve them in these activities, however. I'm sure most of us would agree we wouldn't give a 2yo a shot of Jack Daniels, a bong hit, or intentionally bring them into the bedroom to see mommy and daddy together. The question then, becomes one of where do we draw the line between education and involvement? IMO, bringing them into the headshop while you buy a new pipe or bong dangerously straddles that line.
Greetings friend,
IMO involvement means Education. Marijuana use is an adult activity in America and many other nations. There are also many nations where cannabis use is totally accepted by youth with their parents.
It was the Iowa School of Nursing, DeanMelanie Drier @ Iowa University, who tells us about her research when it came to Ganja using parents using Ganja with their children, and then compariing her findings to those who didnt use cannabis with their children. She concluded that parents who used Ganja with their children, some as young as age 4, had stronger bonds between parent and child than the non-cannabis using families did, they spent more time reading and teaching their kids than the non ganja using parents/kids did, and the respects levels between parent and child were that we america only hope for. The Government has tried to get her to "be quiet" about her findings, but she refuses. Many tribes inAfrica also have this practice.
I have used cannabis for 35+ years. I allowed my kids to asked about it, question it, water my plants, and fetch me my bong. Neither of them use cannabis to this day. Crazy huh? My cannabis use has never led me from my parental duties. My kids eat well, have a nice home, clothed well, educated.
I absolutely reject the argument that if kids are somehow introduced to drugs/cannabis that we stand the chance of losing them to a life time of addiction. Science and the School of Nursing agree.
I take 100% responsibility for my actions, both good and not so bright.
IMO society has conditioned us to act in ways that conflict with the human mind and curiosity. Does that make our curiosity wrong? immoral? I say, No.
On a daily basis we are taking our kids into stores that sell much more dangerous items then you see in a headshop. Do we not take them in stores?
IMO people do more damage to kids by restricting what they see and hear, then we do by allowing them to see and hear it without an honest explaination/debate. That old movie "Carrie" is a great example. That poor kid, because of the strong religious beliefs held by her mother, and her mother hiding things from her all her life didnt even know what a period was. When it happened she was tormented and scared and thought she was going to die. I will not allow that to happen to those i love.
I really doubt that any of us have to worry about our two year olds getting stoned , or catch them giving one another head. What they see on TV is more likely to make that happen.
In my house drugs arent a dirty word, nor is sex. They are human topics that need to be discussed openly and honestly, and we aint getting that from our government. That is my job, not bush's or clintons, or anyone elses.
I could never, nor would i ever, drag my kid to a rehab center. But thats me.
I would never worry about my child being curious to what a dildo is, or a joint, or a bong. These things are objects and things that need to be discussed. The next time you drive down the highway, or through town, or across the country, take the time to look at whats advertised to our kids. That scares the hell out of me, but i would never advocate having them removed. They give us a chance to have conversations with our kids. I emphasize on the word "us", the parent, the guardian, those who love our kids the most.
My kids know that the love i have for them is much deeper than anything on earth. I will not violate that trust by hiding things from them, or not allowing them to make an informed decision..., question what they see.

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If you really love your kids and care about them,here's what i suggest
Blow up your TV. Allow them to ask ANY question thats on their developing lil minds. Never lie to them or hide things from them. Introduce them to music and people from all walks of life. NEVER humiliate them. NEVER hit them.
TRUST them. And trusting them is much easier when they are informed.
Most kids think kissing is ewwwwweeee yuk at 6 years old, and girlshave cooties/kooties. I doubt that giving head never enters their mind. If they are "accidently" exposed to the act? Ahhhhhhh no one ever said that parenting and explaining things to kids was a piece of cake. The time has come to be honest and open with them. They deserve that at any age and it's us the parents responsibilty that we do it honestly. Some kids actually believe that Oral sex isnt sex because of what formed prez clinton said about it after he got caught. gee whiz. lmao.
This is my opinion and i believe that every person is entitled to it :dance:
I am sure that most people in this forum that have kids, love their kids with all their hearts.