getting over this?

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

in november last year, my faimly found out my mum was cheating on my dad, they tried talking it over for the past few months but it did'nt work out because she did'nt stop, so my dad chucked her out the house. So she now lives 5 minuites away from my house but she never come's to see me. The last time i sa her was about a month ago and she just came round to use my dads computer, the last time we talked was about..... well, i cant remember. Anyway, my dad got the devorce papers through ect. while my mum still lives in this cottage going out every night with her b/f getting drunk out of her mind.

But last night (i was completly wrecked, i was drunk/stoned and was very tired) and my dad said he had sent my mum a text saying if she dos'nt reply with-in half an hour he's going to call the DLA to report her for fraud (she had been taking MY carers alounce that's used to pay for my clothes and food ect. and using it on her self, and the fact she dos'nt live with me this counts as fraud, she has also been claming a disability alounce for the past 5 years or so, and the contract in that is if you cant walk 500 yards without a walking stick, which she can (btw, she orijnally got that money about 11 years ago when she got in a car accident which caused damage to her back) anyway, so she never replied so my dad did call the dla on her, they said they were going to get investigators to follow her and watch what she does (you know? watch how she can walk 500 yards with a walking stick) and once they have confirmed it as fraud they are gonna ask for the money back from all those years she has'nt needed a walking stick, and she won't be able to pay it so im taking it shes going to jail.

Anyway, as i said, i cud'nt remember the last time she talked to me, and today my dad told my mum to ring me to talk to me everyday for at least 5 minites because its not fair on me. But i don't want her to call me or talk to me. Also the fact that she had to be FORCED to talk to her own son is even worse. But i can't bare to even look at her, because lets face it, my mum is in all this trouble because she is a big dirty fucking hore and is slowly turning into an alcoholic. Whenever im around her and other peopl are around (if we're in public) i really don't like being seen with my mum because she embarsses me, and im so ashmed and so angry at what shes done that i don't care if i ever see her again, because she completly changed. I feel like i dont know her anymore, and over these past months she's shown to me she dos'nt give a shit about me or my sister, and its just so hard to face facts that THIS is my mum. I've been able to put up with it for quite a while but last night when i was wrecked it was like i only just realised what had happened, and now im having a hard time coping with this, because theres no magic word she can say, she can't change what she has done and this will certainly stick with me for the rest of my life, shes the kind of woman that goes out shoping all the time and gets pissed all the time, she acts like she dos'nt even have a son or a daughter. also during all this thats been going out i found out 19 years ago (JUST before my sister was born) my mum was cheating on my dad, so that of course has made it even worse, because she has been this kind of person the whole time, i had just never realised. I don't know my mum anymore, the person i knew was FAKE, i don't really like talking about this as it is a reminder and i just want to forgot. But i find it easier to express my feelings on the internet in text instead of face to face and talking about it with people i don't really know. But has anyone else been through such a thing? and if so how did you cope with it? because it really is making me lose all hope in life. Sorry for the long read btw, lol.

CrAzYpOtHeAd Reviewed by CrAzYpOtHeAd on 03-11-2006. getting over this? in november last year, my faimly found out my mum was cheating on my dad, they tried talking it over for the past few months but it did'nt work out because she did'nt stop, so my dad chucked her out the house. So she now lives 5 minuites away from my house but she never come's to see me. The last time i sa her was about a month ago and she just came round to use my dads computer, the last time we talked was about..... well, i cant remember. Anyway, my dad got the devorce papers through ect. Rating: 5

[pabloescobar209]

Lets just say growing up with my mom consisted of me teaching myself everything, and my mom spending child support on whiskey.

[Garden Knowm]

WOW.. crazy.. sounds hard...

remember if you get angry or hateful.. that anger will LIVE in you
and in the END it will HURT YOU..

Your mom is just a human.. all of us fuck up.. it sucks that you have to get hurt.. but she is just human like the rest of us and needs acceptance and love... I am sure she is HURTING very badly inside.. believe it or not.. even more than you maybe..

YOU HAVE YOUR YOUTH and YOUR health!!!

YOU are da MAN!!

LOVE

[dopesmoker]

i havent seen or had any contact what so ever with my dad since i was 3 and a half...im 16 now

[buddymyfriend]

Same thing happened with my folks but vice versa, Dad ran off with some bird from work got married and had a kid. Dont see much of him now. Ahh well. Not much advice or kind words if can offer ya mate, its shit, it sucks and we wish it could be different but it isnt it? We just gotta get on with shit as best we can.

Peace Bro

Buddy

[jonny]

Use the experience of "how not to look after your kids" to make yourself a supurb parent when your time comes around.

What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger, unless its someone cutting off your muscles with a scalpel......ok weird, sorry.

BUt use it as a what not to do, and use it to better yourself.

Good luck and courage my friend, It'll get better.

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

Well... its gotten worse, i dont think i mentioned it but my mums been pulling DLA fraud for years, she got in a car crash like 10 years ago and this damged her back and resulted in her using a walking stick, she dos'nt use the walking stick anymore and has'nt been for years but has still been claming the money for it. My dad reported her about a month ago but never told her. He told her today and she said she was going to commit sucide, she sent me a text saying ""Hi stu. You may not see me again asdad has told the faimly to report me 4 fraud and i cant live with that. I have always loved u and always will"... i phoned her and just genrally talked to her. I told her i loved her before she had to hang up. I feel sick, i acculy stuggled to tell her i love her, i dont know if its just one of those teenager things or something else, but this has certainly gotten worse. I always thought it would of gotten better, but this is all just still a shock to me. I always thought my parents were going to be together and happy, i never would of imagined my mum being sucidle and the fact both my parents are depressed it really hurts. I really can't stand this pain. Im either going to have to put up with my mum being in jail. or dead. This all seems just like one big horrible nightmare i cant wake up from. Im just waiting for my mum to wake me up to tell me it will be alright.

[Toffee]

i dont know if its just one of those teenager things

no its not one of those teenager things

as jonny said "what does'nt kill makes you stronger"

now i know this may sound very weird, but go to a priest for help, i have a jesuit friend, (about 25 years older than me) who has helped me so much in any kind of problem. (i think jesuits are the best due to various experiences)

the differerence between a priest and a psycologist is that a priest inclueds religion and sprituality

[ImStonedNILikeIt]

The moral of the story is....

never run from big nigga's *no racism attened*

The point of the story is........

Humans are worthless, We all suck at parenting, and all suck at certain things. Learn from your mothers mistakes, and don't bury yourself in anger, just listen, learn, live.

[CrAzYpOtHeAd]

The moral of the story is....

never run from big nigga's *no racism attened*

The point of the story is........

Humans are worthless, We all suck at parenting, and all suck at certain things. Learn from your mothers mistakes, and don't bury yourself in anger, just listen, learn, live.

Alot easier said than done. Its not just like you can get over something like this instantly.