just think of all the positive things you take for granted about your life. you have your eyesight, get out tomorrow and look at something beautiful. you have the gift of being able to walk (two good legs) which is more than some people have. just to be able to breathe deeply and appreciate the fact that youre ALIVE is sometimes enough. returning to the concrete reality of the body can feel amazingly good if you have a chance to calm it down.

most of the chance circumstances that make up your life at any given time are mostly in your head. instead of defining your life in terms of girlfriend/no girlfriend, job/no job, etc, just look at where you really are right now, in your physical body and in a certain physical environment, just feel what it is to be alive without judging it. this is a moment you will never get back again, and although its scary to think about the future and security and so on, you are every bit as alive as you will ever be. if you have the chance at each moment to decide whether youre going to make your life as you live it a living hell or a living heaven, i might see what it feels like just to feel good about that freedom even if there's no external reason to look at it that way.

dont worry if this doesnt work right away. just notice how you feel and be aware of it, and realize that every moment in life has this element of choice. i realize this doesnt help you actually get your gf or your job back, and those kind of problems will not go away instantly, but life always has so much to offer in the most unlikely places. the things that bring you joy will not be expected, so dont try to plan it.

like i said i know this doesnt SOLVE the problem but puts it in another light, and i can't help feeling that there is something very true about this advice, it has helped me many times in the past.

i hope you're feeling well enough to be kind to yourself; the worst thing about depression is feeling like you dont deserve happiness. but you do, always, and i hope this helps a little bit. i hope im making some sense.
Trichocereus Panza Reviewed by Trichocereus Panza on . Help with Life Crisis... hey everyone. this is a thread asking for help.. im sure many if not all of you have experienced a time when everything is gone, and you have nothing, and no one to turn to. My girlfriend of 2 years whom i love very very much, broke up with me because A.) shes interested in other guys, and B.) because my drug use was affecting our relationship. on top of that, my job that i had which paid very well with great work said that they ran out of work for me to do so April 15th is my last Rating: 5