A Drink called lonlyness....

[drinksmokesleep]

i hear ya on this drink man, i totally get your point, but having experienced this myself as well, i agree with u on most points except one, if u spend a lot of time around someone u may start to develop "more than friendship" feelings, this (i know) cannot be helped, and u can either choose to tell her how u feel and know for sure if anything will ever happen, or u can suffer in silence, im not saying u should be friends with a girl first just so u can try it on l8er, quite the opposite infact, but sometimes u can't help how you feel towards someone, love can grow with time, and seeing her everyday knowing that she wont return those feelings can hurt.

Peace:thumbsup:

Suppose mate...........as i said everybody is different........Anyway wot about being freinds with a woman you arnt interested in at all, surely no feelings develop.............

Peace/ i can see where your comin from though

[drinksmokesleep]

yeah ok so all that fake bullshit works if u want sex, but read the rest of the posts dude, were not talkin about sex, were talkin about love and how it feels to be around someone that u cant be with (and i dont mean sexually), theres more to life (and relationships) than sex,... its crap like that that give us decent blokes a bad name, some of us aint just out to sleep with as many women as possible, i'd rather make love than have sex, but maybe thats just me, and if thats not good enough for anyone reading this then, i don't really give a shit.

Peace :rasta:

Amen to that wes.........Totaly agree......100 pc

[Weeden]

Right? Sex is never as satisfying if it is with someone you don't know and love. There is a mental connecting to sex that you don't get if it is with someone you don't know. I mean, once yer an old man, you won't give a damn about how women you've slept with. You'll care if there is someone next to you who you've known and loved for 50+ years. Not to mention, its not like there are any friggen guidelines that are going to work for ALL women. Different women look for different things. You just have to find the woman who wants what you are offering.

Tsch, do you consider this person as a friend or something more? I'm talking from only YOUR perspective, not both of you. If you see her as something more than a friend, and she only sees you as a friend, the best thing you can do for her is be there for her. She will (eventually) dump that guy. The best way to get to someone who is currently in a relationship is to be their friend. I suppose you could see this as getting your foot inside the door. If you try to stop their relationship, she will get angry at you.

However, if, after she is single again, she seems to have no interest in you as being more than a friend, yer fucked. This is only if you know she is still interested in a relationship. She will probably be hurt/pissed off at guys in general, so you might have you wait a little longer there too.

It comes down to whether or not you want to wait for her. you could remain friends with her and begin to look for others. If you find someone else you'd want to be with more than her, then go for that person. Otherwise, you'll have to wait.

[Wesley Pipes]

Right? Sex is never as satisfying if it is with someone you don't know and love. There is a mental connecting to sex that you don't get if it is with someone you don't know. I mean, once yer an old man, you won't give a damn about how women you've slept with. You'll care if there is someone next to you who you've known and loved for 50+ years. Not to mention, its not like there are any friggen guidelines that are going to work for ALL women. Different women look for different things. You just have to find the woman who wants what you are offering.

Tsch, do you consider this person as a friend or something more? I'm talking from only YOUR perspective, not both of you. If you see her as something more than a friend, and she only sees you as a friend, the best thing you can do for her is be there for her. She will (eventually) dump that guy. The best way to get to someone who is currently in a relationship is to be their friend. I suppose you could see this as getting your foot inside the door. If you try to stop their relationship, she will get angry at you.

However, if, after she is single again, she seems to have no interest in you as being more than a friend, yer fucked. This is only if you know she is still interested in a relationship. She will probably be hurt/pissed off at guys in general, so you might have you wait a little longer there too.

It comes down to whether or not you want to wait for her. you could remain friends with her and begin to look for others. If you find someone else you'd want to be with more than her, then go for that person. Otherwise, you'll have to wait.

:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

[Wesley Pipes]

Suppose mate...........as i said everybody is different........Anyway wot about being freinds with a woman you arnt interested in at all, surely no feelings develop.............

Peace/ i can see where your comin from though

yeah man no probs there, i got loads of female friends that are just friends to me, wether they feel something more for me, i cant tell, but thats why i dont talk about my lovelife to much of my female friends, or even most of my male friends (but mostly cuz they just take the piss about bein soppy lol), im just not the kinda guy to load my probs onto someone else, im a listener not a talker lol, but my probs are my probs, i dont like bothering ppl with my burdens, but as u said, everyones different :thumbsup:

peace:stoned:

[drinksmokesleep]

Id rather talk bout my love life with my female freinds rather than my male ones any day............Inside info eh?

[Looker]

GOPUTTAFUCKINCAPINHISHEAD............

I know I know this is not my style but I just wanted a little hit and run...

[friendowl]

getting drunk cures all pain
good choice.
drink fast and hard .
pain will melt away
thats why i stopped drinking
i love pain

[drinksmokesleep]

getting drunk cures all pain
good choice.
drink fast and hard .
pain will melt away
thats why i stopped drinking
i love pain

I hate pain...........thats why i cant stop drinking.........

[hunny]

i dont wanna get too personal but i would say that guys can have female m8s an vice versa,,i would consider personally iv got about 2 male friends that i sit an ramble my shit to an they dont judge me.....as for fancin me etc i dunno about that,,but on the whole for a guy to be m8s with a girl dont matter as long as the guy doesnt see the girl as ' a one time fuk ' ,,as girls think differently to the sex side of a relationship(well sum girls do) ill correct that bit..an as the past posts iv read yea sex isnt the only thing about a relationship to make it work,,for a guy that wants more from his female friend ,,then u have to tell her how u feel as just holdin on to the hope that one day shell notice u ,,wont work especially if one day she finds sumone else an u feel rejected again...u need to get feelings out in the open an move on from them