Gangagirl, if you let you're son toke up in High School, and he made it to college, then it must have been something else that ruined him, in college.

You got him where you were supposed to take him and when others had a hold of him, something went wrong. If you were to ask most mothers what would happen if they were to let their child do the same thing, they'd have no doubt that their son/daughter would be a loser and a dropout, and never make it to college. If all those kids who came to my parties had stayed home and smoked pot, instead, it would've saved me lots of trouble.