That's funny Scarlett - you're just like my fiance!

When we fight, all he wants to do is talk, and truth be told, if I'm angry, I don't want to talk because I don't want to say something without thinking.

If your hubby likes a cool off period, let him have it. Don't let the fight escalate to the point where you can't talk in a civil manner - when you sence it's going past where you want it to, just say "I don't want to fight about this, let's cool off, but would it be Ok to talk about it latter when we're both feeling less upset?"

That phrase has worked miracles for me. It gives me the cool off time that I really need, but it lets Scott know that I'm not brushing the issue under the rug and that he will get a chance to talk it out.

But hey, what works for me might not work for you... still, some food and a bowl is a great way to make up!