Officerleeroy,

The three things women are looking for are,

Confidence
Self-Control
Being a challenge

These are your 3 C's, memorize them and tatoo them on your bicep and flex your muscle. You must have these things for women to be attracted to you and stay attracted to you.

There is one more important thing you need to build on which is a culmination of all of the above and that is:

Your sexual value.

This requires you to build seduction and to eliminate anti-seduction traits.

It is alot like investing money. You would need to find ways to make your money grow while at the same time eliminating things that waste your money. Seduction is the same way.

Women need to be emotionally challenged and this requires that you dont share your feelings early on. Dont "wear your heart on your sleave",this is also what I call "spilling your guts".

Always use phrases like, "I MIGHT be interested", "I think there MIGHT be something there but Im not sure".

This keeps the challenge going because you didnt confirm it and she never knows where she stands with you.

Never confirm it with your feelings or "I love you's" This will turn her off.

She has to feel that she is working for you and that is your VALUE. Your value is also your lack of availabilty and your percieved demand.

When you are NOT a challenge women refer to this as "nice" or "friends", either way it is anti-seductive and this turns them off and bottom line equates to no sex.

Sharing your feelings early on takes the challenge out of the game. Once you do this there is pretty much nothing you can do to take it back because you have all ready been labeled subconsciously. Game over.

She, in most cases wont be able to tell you why she doesnt feel anything for you. It becomes a lack of interest without explanation on her part.

It is imperative that you develope your confidence and your ability to be a challenge. Being a challenge must occur from the first time you meet on into marriage. It has to continue. When it comes to confidence, ACT IT, FAKE IT, OR GROW IT THATS AN ORDER!

Play the game as all women do. Just dont play her game. Out game her. The minute you start giving in to her game is when she starts to loose interest. Dont always do as she wants, be unpredictable etc.

Becoming confident is not that hard.

First. You need to red flag any internal script in your head that in anyway says that you are not good enough.

You cannot in anyway feel sorry for yourself for not having a girl like the others. This thought pattern is already hindering you before you even start.

YOu must red flag any negative script in your head FIRST. That is your first step in building your confidence. So red flag it, bag it, tag it and throw it in the trash.

This thought pattern will also affect your sexual value in a negative way.

Women are intuitive and can pick up on this.

So, from now on when ever you get around women start running internal script in your mind,

"women are drawn to me"
"Do you want to make a connection with me"
"I am confident"

And you know what? it is the same dynamic in reverse. Try this when not talking to women and at the same time you are talking to women.

Just dont use internal script that has any motive of sex. Because they pick up on this as well and it has a negative effect.

The sub component of confidence is SELF-ESTEEM. Self-esteem means saying the "no" word once in a while or letting her know NON-VERBALLY where the line in the sand is drawn.

It is IMPORTANT that you do this as EARLY as possible in a new relationship.

So when a women throws you a self-esteem/confidence test at you. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. If she walks on you once, she'll do it again.

Realize that women test your male-strength qualities of Confidence, self-control and challenge. (see thread history "women and testing")

She is trying to find out what is there and how strong your male strength traits are. So when she pushes on your self-esteem you must form a brick wall in your mind and not a bowl of oatmeal.

So show her that YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.

NO RESPECT FOR YOURSELF=NO LOVE. That is the way it is. If she can walk on you, she wont respect you, therefore you will be labled a "friend", which as "nice", equates to no sex.

Let me share a secret with you.

Beautiful women need to hear the word "no" more than anything. Think about it. Arent most guys just kissing the asses of these women willing to do anything for them.

From the time she turned 18 no guy would tell her "no". They pump her gas, they buy her drinks all night, they do this, they do that etc.

She needs to hear the word "no". That is what she is looking for as well as a guy that can out game her, i.e plays the game, just not HER game. Combine this with your percieved sexual value and she will want you.

This means she Has to know that if pushed hard enough you WILL walk. And MEAN IT.

(See my thread history "Toughguys,niceguys and gentlemen"). This is something you need to read to balance respect in yourself.




Confidence tips:

Keep yourself well groomed, Use three different body washes, axe, oldspice sport etc. to make yourself smell different and unpridictable. Have a woman help you choose one. When she says that one smells nice, dont choose that one. When she says that one smells interesting, choose that one.

Keep yourself dressed well. (wear slacks, shirt, dress shoes and tie out in public for no reason and test reactions of women).

In public keep your chin up. Keep your shoulders back and walk slightly fast.


Remember the women do the choosing. So when you PROJECT confidence in your MIND, how you DRESS and CARRY YOURSELF this will attract women.

Women will flirt with you to let you know they are interested. This is mostly non-verbal body language. So pay attention. Many messages women send are on different levels and are not direct including when it comes to sex.

Now the first thing to do when you get the flirting is to ask her name but not offer yours unless she asks. This is the very start of challenge.

Ask some friendly questions, and leave on a high note, by high note I mean a "high point" somewhere in the conversation.

You need to be the one that always leaves first, is off the phone first. If she is first, she increases her value and yours is lessened. So leave on a high note first and throw her a compliment before you walk away.

Just one will last for a long time, so dont over do it and you wont appear desperate. Too many compliments are anti-seductive.

Just say, "you look good in yellow by the way", then leave. Let it work while your gone. She will be thinking about you. So learn to compliment correctly will also help draw women to you. But compliments do not build sexual tension so keep that in mind.

Romance, affection, compliments etc only build slight, soft sexual tension. Every woman has a sexual nimpho in her that is dying to come out.

To know how to push the right buttons you must learn the art of building seduction and let it build until she is the one to initiate the sex and I mean to point of completing the process to where she is grabbing your crotch and kissing your neck.

It is up to you to build the tension through your percieved sexual value. Dont put your hands on her and intiate until it builds. Then let her complete the process. Women need this tension to build first. Dont undermine it.

Here are the basics,

Men get turned on by what they see.
Women get turned on by how you make them feel and your percieved value.

If you approach just any woman before you have got these signs of flirting, chances are that she will not be interested. So look for the body language first.



Ill make a thread about seductive/anti-seductive traits to help you out so look for it soon.


Take care