MY mom is getting on my nerves

[fractur]

don't get defensive, get rational with her.

Usually when I get rational with people, they're the ones to get defensive. I rarely tried to reason with my mom because as soon as she was backed into a corner (when arguing against her reasoning), she'd stop the conversation, yelling "I've said it already" or "I don't want to talk about this". Due to the lack of a real conversation (and her power over me at the time), I never brought up cigarettes or weed to discuss. She's more open minded than many other people I have spoken with, unfortunately.

[Az.]

my mum is exactly the same....

The past few days she has just been constantly having a go at me....just being really rude to me, thinking she knows what i do all day, which is honestly just college....

Today she came up and said she was getting rid of my cats and computer...i had to change my friends....blah blah

Yesterday i could hear her crying from my room which is two floors up....so i went down to see what was wrong and she explained.....what was.....and she is really depressed and worried....she thinks im going to go pchizophrenic due to my smoking (loads of other shit aswell...sisters lung collapsed....so i hugged her for a bit....lol).....she HATES weed....and nothing I say will make her change her mind

The bad thing is, your parents will never change. They were raised on, by the sounds of it, that MJ is a gateway drug. This is how they were raised and taught, no changing them man.

i suppose that is quite true.....its very annoying, but true

im not going to go on....

I dont argue back anymore because it just leads to both of us getting even more stressed...i just do what she says to keep her happy and off my back and wait for the day when i finished college and get a fulltime job so i can leave here......(I just remembered when i got back today she had been through my cupboards and took my bong luckily she didnt see the near 3oz of mushrooms! i would have been in shit then.....)

rant over....

Hope all works out for the best dude

Peace

[Weeden]

Man, if my parents ever grounded me or punished me, I only listened to them if their grounding was justified. Did I sneak out at night and get piss-ass drunk? Then yes, I ought to be punished. But that lighter bit? Thats bullshit. If she is going to punish you for finding a friggen lighter in her house that isn't even yours, then I don't think you should listen or her or respect her decision to punish you.

I have found that the best way to get back at my parents for their anti-weed business was to show them that it doesn't actually fuck up yer life. Be a "success" and prove them wrong.

Unfortunatly, there isn't a whole lot that you can do as of right now. If you have tried to talk with her adult to adult, and she isn't doing the same, then screw her. If she wants to treat you like a fool, then she doesn't deserve your respect.

[friendowl]

i dont got no mom or dad to tell me to stop but if i did i wouldnt

[bedake]

i dont got no mom or dad to tell me to stop but if i did i wouldnt

here here neither do i! but you know sometimes its good to be nice to your parents, cause you know they provide everything for you, but if they arnt good parents then fuck em, kill em i think all bad parents should die

[VoidLivesOn]

Quit for a bit have her piss test you.Then when you finally pass it just give her the shut the fuck up now look, and just leave it at that.

Only if its that big of a deal.

[IntrepidS]

That's a mother for you. Those who fight back end up with problems. Those who everything she says end up with nothing. Best advice is to keep doing what you're doing and staying out of trouble as much as possible, anything that might alert her that you're up to no good is bad. In the instance that you've described it seems that she was wrong, and in that case I'd suggest sitting down with your dad and telling him what happened. If yo really didn't do anything then he'll put in a good word for you.

[Skink]

All I can say is, there's good advice here... She's your mom,respect her and her wishs... While you are under her roof she is the boss... My mom was tough,She only wanted what was best for me... Be thankful she loves you!!!

[Midnight Baker]

Scarlett is so wise.

Go with the rational route and remain calm.

[KylefromVA]

When I was your age it wasn't an issue for me. I smoked just about everyday and I hid it from them. My parents never knew I smoked or did anything until I was like 19 and I told my dad about it. If you know your mom is going to freak out then why would you talk to her about it or why get yourself into a position where she is going to find out? I'm all about being honest... but not being stupid... if a cop pulls you over for speeding are you going to tell him you have a dime bag in your pocket?

Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to be an asshole and I'm not calling you stupid... I'm just trying to understand.