Man... I had the EXACT same damn problem. Looking back on it, I think it was because I just wasn't ready. Hopefully this person will be understanding of that fact. Just wait, enjoy foreplay, and one day you'll know what you need to do . Hell, it'll be better with someone who you actually love anyways. There's a level of sex that can't be reached with two people who don't love each other. If it has meaning, it will be much better.