Old farts opinion: Babyface is right, usually the I'm fat or i'm ugly routine is an unfortunate female response to insecurity. The issue is not always based on the security of looks or a relationship, it sometimes can be far from it, the best thing for this, and yes guys it can hurt, is to talk....talk...talk...don't expect the truth the first time. Remember it is about insecurity... break through that barrier and you'll have a life partner!!! Of course I could be a quack!!