Help with parents

[pofacedhoe]

Lets see where do i start, ok here you go, a few years ago i started smoking weed, the first time i did it i got caught and my parents were really pissed and made me promise i would never do it again, i promised her but again i started smoke ing, after that time i got caught about seven more times the most recent being a day or so ago i smoked a bowl with my friend and about an hour or so later my parents came home i had to go to work right away so i got in the car and on the way their my mom turned around and looked me straight in the eyes and sayed that they looked "tired" ( well it was because i was stoned off my ass) and now today she is all on my case and shit i just dont know what to do should i give up smoking weed or what im just confused. help me

You must ask yourself what kind of people are my parents? By that i mean open to opinions other than their own or narrow minded. If its the latter then just lie, lie, lie-ignorance deserves not to know the truth as by its very nature when it sees truth it sticks its fingers in its ears and goes la la la. But if only one parent (only one is necessary) is open minded and tolerant in personality to things it doesnt approve of (eg.faggots like moi) utilize this situation.

Things to say to an open minded parent: I told you the truth because i respect you and feel that lying demeans our relationship,
Explain the benefits of cannabis use and the drawbacks,
Explain why you use it,for what purpose,
Ask them their fears in relation to this substance and you( it helps to have reasearch and scientific literature to combat their arguements and support your point) lay those fears to rest,
If you dont drink alcohol use that as an explaination,
But most of all if they never listen to reason ie. religiously brainwashed or believe everything in the newspaper, why would they now?

My advice is dependent on the personalities of your parents-you know them better than anyone. just remember no course of action is effective in every situation so analyse your parents. i find tidying up shuts my mothers mouth when she moans about pot-if in doubt gett your tounge up both their bums

[KillaBuzz]

yah pofacedhoe iz rite actually, none ov us cood rlly say wutz best fer u we dunt kno yer parentz. i juss said itz best that u b open, maybe ud get yer ass beat a few timez but it'll make it easier fer yah. pofacedhoe has a few good pointz tho.

[bowlsnapper2012]

fuck ur parents i got caught four times in a week and still smoke two more times that week just be descreet

[ickivicki]

i could never have say any of the things you guys are saying to my redneck parents without getting a pool que or beer bottle smashed across my head. fuckin weird.

Man I totally understand, My dad would beat the shit out of me and kick me out of the house if he found out I smoke. Some parents aren't very understanding and you can't talk to them about stuff like that. The best Advice would be( depending on age):

A. Stay in school, Mantain good grades. Join a club or something so they see you aren't a burn out who cares about nothing else but getting stoned.
B. Get a job, a decent job, work as much as you can. Save money, and spend a little on weed. At least they'll see you're being responcible and this is a recreational thing, and you're not throwing your life away for it.

If you're parents aren't understanding, the best thing to do would be to say " yea, I've smoked, even after I told you I wasnt. I was wrong, I'm sorry and I can tell you I am going to try to keep my promise this time." Then do one of the above so they think you're making a change in your life. Then if you decide to keep smoking, keep it quiet, don't hang around your house stoned when you know your parents will be around. Don't make it blatantly obvious you've lied to them. Things should settle down and life should return to normal.

good luck

[DrGonzo]

ok guys, I'm glad you asked.... I've been going round and round with this in my head for a couple of weeks... I have a fifteen yr. old daughter and I've always encouraged her to just talk to me before she tries anything (smoking, drinking, sex) out of fear of her getting into something she can't handle. In fact, I'm the one who offered her a puff one night I sensed she was nervous about something major.. So she pretty much tells me all about her evenings with her friends, but I have told her if I feel her grades or ambitions are not up to par she will see the uncool side of me. Kids are gonna do what they gotta do.. on the other hand, if your parents cannot accept it you will not change their minds... some people truly believe pot will screw you up... who knows they my be right.... Some people tell me I am wrong and that I need to set boundries or limits, i do, but i have to be realistic, and it really eases my mind knowing where she is who she's with and what they're up to... they never hesitate to call me if they need a ride or just need me , My daughter knows the one thing that will get her grounded is if she gets in a car with someone that has been drinking or lacking good judgement.... Am I an enabler? some would say yes... Being a parent is a huge responsibility and there are no guaranties on the outcome, just remember most parents love their kids so much that it's a constant struggle hoping they're doing the right thing, but never knowing for sure.
peace,
onehitwonder

to me, that seems like a good way to go about it...it makes for more trust. I have a baby girl (7mos old right now) and I hope to raise her the same way...so she trusts me and my judgement, and actually values my opinions. I figure, if my child won't trust me to tell me she smokes pot, she won't trust me to tell me she's having unprotected sex, or is giving handjobs for crack in a truckstop bathroom, or is an underage pornographer (that may just be overprotective father instincts kicking in). I think that boundaries are good, but they gotta be realistic...
"never smoke, never drink, always be home by 9pm, all your homework must be done"...
to me that's bullshit. I wouldn't be able to keep up with all that, and I resented my parents for trying to pin that kinda thing on me. I'd much prefer a child who is honest and open, who doesn't feel the need to hide things from her parents...


as to the belt thing, that really sucks, man. my parents used a big wooden spoon to beat my ass...but only when I really deserved it. and in retrospect, it wasn't really that bad...my mother isn't exactly a baseball player, and it never even bruised. its more the shock that does the discipline, I think.

[x6xhellx6xspawnx6x]

hey corniculatus.......is ur name by any chance corey fisher

[Sedater18]

Dude if you've been caught 9 times then no shit they know you smoke weed. If your parents punish you like mine punish and I got caught 9 times, me and them both would be in jail. Are your parents still hardcore like grounding you and shit or are they just like making a huge mental comotion about it? After you get caught enough times they will either except it or be completly lame and like send you to some retarded rehab programs like my friends brother had to. baked...

[Reminissions]

well actually yesterday i came home (before i came home i smoked 6 bowls of sum fine cannabis) and my eyes were so blood shot so red so glazed that if you looked into them it looked like you were looking into a tinted red mirror and my mom looked at me looked into my eyes didnt say a word but when she was going upstairs she said and i quote "you look hungry want me to go buy you some mcdonalds" and of course my reply was hell yea lol i think she knew i was stoned i just dont know if she cared. Yea my parents used to beat me with a belt and shit (they are from ukraine that how they were raised) i think they just gave up cuz thats all they ended up doing is beating my ass, they saw i was still doing the same shit and i guess they realized beating my ass isnt the answer so i hope they accepted it, thanks for hearing me out its a long post and im really stoned lol gimmie your thoughts on what i just said.

Thanks guys

[KillaBuzz]

most parentz will end up commin around sumwhat. thatz y i told yah u hsood juss b open, cuz like sedator said, they already kno that u toke up so wutz the point in pretendin that u dunt?
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