What is a good way to ask her to come outside?

Say its too noisy in here to talk or something similiar, "lets go outside so I can hear you better" . Hint, maybe you have loud music inside lots of people talking. Very good excuse. Or say," its too distracting in here lets go outside so we can talk".

What if she is shy and doesnt want to touch you first?

Shy women are tricky. I still think if you hold back she will have no other option if she is interested. Touching her first is tricky too. She probably already knows your interested as well so you dont need to do more to show that you are.

There are a few tricks. Try to notice if she has a ring on her finger. If she does and she hasnt touched you after some time has passed just casually notice it, nonchaulantly, say, "can I see your ring. Act interested in it. Take her four fingers between your thumb and and index finger and look at a little closer.

This has a VERY good effect on her as she will be watching you while you are holding her hand briefly and gently. Compliment the ring. Go easy on compliments by the way. A little goes a long way. One compliment stays in a persons head for a long time. Too many and it has a detremental effect. Or compliment the color of her clothes, "you look good in yellow" Just one compliment for the evening. So choose it well. This will help draw her out of her shyness.

If it is cold outside this might be an excuse to get close. Maybe the party is at night time when it is colder outside. Just go slow.

Sometimes when women talk or tell a story they will want to touch you with a hand briefly on the shoulder or do something humorous as an excuse to touch you.

So keep positive and joke around or poke fun of something that you learned in the conversation about her and she will more than likely give you a playful type of slap on the shoulder. This leads to more.

All Im saying is if you challenge her enough she will have no choice. She is already interested. If enough tension is building she wont be able to hold back. It would be hard for me to believe a girl who is interested in you wouldnt step it up at some point.

I would be careful about you initiating more touching beyond her comfort level because the last thing you want is to turn her off completly. Seduction is an art. And patience and challenge are brothers to one another.

If there are other girls there this could work to your advantage. She will be more inclined to touch you if she senses other girls checking you out, (sexual value) see how this is working. But you need to avoid checking out the other girls. Its delicate cause you dont want jealousy which is very negative.

One more thing you might try on top of dressing well and grooming is to smell good.
I dont know why this particular product works but women seem to love the smell of it.
Try old spice body wash, in a red plastic bottle, there are several, "sport" is the one you want. Ive tried many, lots of women seem to like the smell of this one.

Just dont get into any false notion that you have to "do things" to win her approval that is a very bad mind set to have and turns women off.

If you read anything Ive written in the past always remember:

Confidence, Self-control, and being a challenge. (memorize) you need these for the rest of your life including your career. Believe it or not challenge can help you win a job interview if you know the strategy.

Those are the things All women are looking for in dating and marriage.


Tip:

In your conversations try to inject words like "Confident", "Exciting", "unpredictable" etc. work these into your phrases somehow and inflect or highten your voice slightly with enthusiam on these words while you tell a story.

They have a lasting effect and carry a sub message.

Be a good reflective listener also. This will draw her out also. Very easy. Just let her talk. Listen. When she is done sum up the idea in your own words, for example, "so what your saying is....................." or "its kinda like..............".

you get the idea.



Good luck this weekend. I think you do alright. Happy birthday btw.
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