Out of probably a dozen guys I've been with only one REALLY left an impression. I think first of all if the guy is really enjoying himself it helps, because he gets really into and knowing he is really turned on just heats things up more. The finger tongue combo is great, if you can master it. And getting into a rythm is real nice. But really it is the full on banging I like. Nothing like a nice cock ramming ya. seriously.