You asked her "whether she was doing anything this weekend". ????????????What!!

Wrong approach. You should use confidence and be direct and take the lead.

"skiing, noon on sunday lets go" see the difference. Plan,time,direct. goodbye.

Shows confidence by being direct and having a plan. You also need phone skills.(see past posts and threads)

YOu threw the ball back in court what did you expect her to do.


Instead of saying you didnt have plans why dont you create some plans. Like being busy on Friday and Saturdays for the next 3 weeks. Give her a weekday or a sunday as a counter offer. but Fridays and Saturdays are off. Sorry. Its availablity perception. That is what she will react to is the challenge.

Id say you killed interest by being too available.


In the workplace huh?

Start chit chatting with some other girls in the workplace and make them giggle around the water cooler or something. She might wonder what all the noise is about.

Go for the home telephone number directly. "give me your home telephone number"
That shows confidence right off the bat. Because you took the risk of a rejection and if you say it like you expect it, then most of the time you do. Wait 5-9 days to call for the first time. Keep the phone call short. No chit chat. set a date and get off the phone.

The goal of the first date is to make it to the second date. Which alot of guys dont.
Dont plan or even ask about the second date while your on the first one. Make her wonder and anticipate.





Ya gotta learn all the phone skills.
Ganjasaurusrex Reviewed by Ganjasaurusrex on . Shoot down in flames Ok so thereā??s this girl at work I find attractive, me and her have been looking at each other back and forth for a few weekā??s now. So today after work we where standing around for a bit chit chatting, so I walked up to her and asked her if she was doing anything this weekend and would you like to meet up someplace? First she said she had no plans and then ask me back if I had any and I said no. And then she changed her story to her and a ā??friendā? where doing something together. Rating: 5