I need advice, for once.

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Okay, here the Penguin is, asking for relationship advice.

I have two women whom I love very deeply, but I don't know which one to choose, and I'm really stuck.

Paige, who cares for me and hates even to see me hurt in any way, and who has so much in common with me it's insane, yet is going out with my best friend.

Amy, who doesn't think the way I do, but cares for me, and even though we have massive fights occasionally, some invisible tie brought us together even though we met fighting, and has kept us together. We really have no way of explaining it.


We had drama enough today, but I know it's going to come down to one, another, or neither, and I need advice. Please help, and don't fuck with me, I'm dead serious here.

P.E.N.G.U.I.N. Reviewed by P.E.N.G.U.I.N. on 01-13-2006. I need advice, for once. Okay, here the Penguin is, asking for relationship advice. I have two women whom I love very deeply, but I don't know which one to choose, and I'm really stuck. Paige, who cares for me and hates even to see me hurt in any way, and who has so much in common with me it's insane, yet is going out with my best friend. Amy, who doesn't think the way I do, but cares for me, and even though we have massive fights occasionally, some invisible tie brought us together even though we met Rating: 5

[Stoner Shadow Wolf]

i will LAUGH MY ASS OFF if they both turn out to be polygamists!

[P.E.N.G.U.I.N.]

Amy's a Christian, David, and likes adhering to her Christian morals.

[Its a Plant]

just from what I read, it sounded like you didnt have nearly the problems with Paige. I would probably not want to even worry about fighting a lot in a relationship; you guys should be past that point to some degree. I think its kinda tough for anyone else to give advice on what you know only you can do. Imagine what your life would be like without one and then the other, and see which one you feel stronger about. I dunno, hope this helps, and good luck. :stoned:

[Ganjasaurusrex]

Well.

For starters men dont choose women. They do the choosing always. The relationship is always on a womans turf. They say when its over 90% of the time. You cannot possess a woman either. She will do what she wants, when she wants to do it.

She does the choosing in the beginning by flirting, you approach, stop, backup and then she chases. Its a rythym. Dont use your intellect to outsmart mother nature.


It sounds like Paige put you in the "friends" catagory because she, "doest want to see you hurt in any way" and she is, "going out with your best friend".

Learn to bottom line her actions. To me, you are saying which one should I choose? when Im hearing, "friends" by her, end of story.

Women will not flat out tell you "no" the majority of the time, and will say it in a different way, (womanese) if they are not interested, it sounds like she is saying, "friends" i.e. not lovers by saying "doesnt want to hurt you". So by the sounds of it she already said no and I dont see how the choice is yours?

Could have been any number of reasons she lost interest, but mainly like I always say
Confidence, Challenge and self-control. Did you fail to do something in this area?
The vast majority of the times its one of these things.


Amy wouldnt happen to be mad at you for possibly making comparisons or anything like that or talking about this other girl maybe? Do you talk about Paige AT ALL to her?
Maybe Amy is disrespected that you might be making comparisons. There should be no talk at all about the other girl or making comparisons. Period.

Fighting occasionally, usually is also spiritually related. Sometimes neccessary to grow individually or as a couple. Could be a past hurt that one feels when triggered by something such as a fear in something you do or she does to you????

Just know that when you see anger it means: Hurt, Fear or Frustration.
One or a combination of the three. So the next time she is angry, if she is initiates it look for what is beneath the anger to solve the problem. Using validating words like "I understand", (when you really do) is important after being a reflective listener. When she is done talking ask her if there is anything else bothering her. Continue to listen. this is the best way to diffuse a woman who is upset.

But if you dont want to loose Amy you need to start doing the right things to keep her attracted to you.

Id also be careful when you use the word "love". Saying you love two women very deeply doesnt make sense to me.
Your reacting to something else.

use that word very lightly in your relationship so you are an emotional challenge, which is what women want.

You cannot project "your love" into a woman and expect it to be returned, or gain acceptance, it doesnt work that way. Its HER interest level in YOU not the other way around.

Remember the three C's. Confidence, Challenge and Control (of yourself not her). Tattoo those words on your bicep.


Peace


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[Lakota]

Always remember....good girls doing nasty stuff with you is WAY hotter then bad girls doing nasty shit with you.

The one girl has a boyfriend...she is OFF the table

Only one choice....Amy. Just watch out for those ahhhh morals. THATS a lot of baggage.

[justinsane]

man.. you are in a huge bind here.

wow, to be honest with you, i dont think either of them are worth the consequences that would boil over if you choose one or the other

a best friend is definitly more important than any relationship

and a girl who doesnt think like you, most likely never will.

[Euphoric]

Paige. :thumbsup:

[Musician]

fuck both and see whos better

[beachguy in thongs]

Okay, here the Penguin is, asking for relationship advice.

I have two women whom I love very deeply, but I don't know which one to choose, and I'm really stuck.

Let them choose you. Maybe someone has said that, already.