love crisis!

[kiki]

so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why i'm doing this, and i've been trying to figure it out. i guess part of me thinks it's "easier" not to have to deal with the drama. has anyone else been stuck in a rut like this before? i wasn't sure where to post this, and i understand if it gets moved to the sexuality forum.

kiki Reviewed by kiki on 01-13-2006. love crisis! so, this might be more of a question for the girls, but i'm interested to see what the guys have to say about it too. this is my situation: i complain a lot of the time that i want to have some guy that i can hook up with, hang out with, etc (but i don't want the label of bf/gf). yet every time a guy shows interest in me, i find some reason to reject him... and i don't even think i'm that picky! i think in general i don't let people get close to me and i push them away. i don't know why Rating: 5

[thcbongman]

Sounds like you haven't found that guy you clicked with.

I wouldn't worry about it, I'm the same way as you. I don't let others get close to me unless they have a certain element about them. The guys you been meeting simply don't have it!

[BabyFacedAbortion]

maybe you have a secret fear that you may want to commit to the relationship eventually which is holding you back from even starting something with a guy

[s2headhunter]

maybe your just a tease and dont realize it ..im not trying to badmouth you at all sorry if that pissed you off but i know people like that and yeah you know...just make sure your not teasing and well just wait..youll click with someone...eventually

[kiki]

hmmm interesting theories. this makes a lot less sense afer i just smoked that bowl :stoned:

[deathbyvalley]

i just went through that with the guy i was with before my current boyfriend. at the time i just got out of a 10 month relationship and wasn't really looking to be with anyone (going through the slut/player phase, as my cousin and her friend put it). i dunno, he got mad when i hooked up with another guy, long story short, i wanted benefits without the title. just couldn't find anyone i wanted to be with...until i found my boyfriend. don't worry, that guy (or guys) you'll click with will come rollin in.

[Midnight Baker]

you cant get hurt if you dont let ppl get close to you...

[Lily420]

wow...lol it deffinitly is spring time

LOVE IS IN THE AIR!

[Wesley Pipes]

you cant get hurt if you dont let ppl get close to you...

not entirely true.... u can be hurt from feeling alone all the time too.
maybe ur unconsously (spelling?) afraid of being burned again, this might explain why u don't know why u dont get serious with a guy, but don't take my word for it.... i am by no means an expert on the subject

[Yasmodeus]

Nothing is more humane than to have yourself reject people even if you don't have a clear reason.

Midnight Baker has a point. Either he has realized that on his own or just played too much FF VIII :stoned: