Hey all thanks very much for the advice. I really appreciate it
Ganjasaurusrex, what you say makes a lot of sense i wouldn't mind asking you a couple of questions about this, have you got msn? if you wanna add me 'find all posts' of mine and there are a few with my address in.

i forgot to say a couple things..

She said a few days ago that she was feeling down about the fact that this person won't leave his girlfriend for her. and that she was thinking of just giving up on him. i get so many mixed messages from her i'm just really confused. i would love to believe that she still likes me but i don't know. she always seems to make an effort to make me jealous if another boy that she knows is around..or perhaps she's just being flirty like she was with me and i'm thinking i'm special when i'm not..

i like to think i can tell when a girl isn't interested. i seem to have known quite clearly in the past with other ppl. it was obvious a couple months back that this girl liked me tho. alot i think hehe. and i dont think she does as much now..i dont THINK anyway, it's not as overt (right word?) as it was. but you know how when a girl isn't into you and you'll make some comment that would elude to going out/being together they usually back off or play it down or something. but this girl at the moment doesn't. like i jokingly mentioned that when i got back into my town after a nite out at about midnight that i was gonna call her and see if she wanted to meet up (i didnt say it so formally but i cant remember my exact words) and she was like 'ah you should have. i'd have come out' then the conversation got a bit awkward cus how do you really follow that up lol. i'm trying to give you all a clear picture so you can make the most informed decisions you can but i don't think im doing a very good job. if any of you wanna talk to me over msn about this for whatever reason follow instructions at top of post i gave to ganjasaurus. cheers