ok, give me a second and I'll be back with some really good ideas for you to try. (I got a busy schedule this week but I really am the one to tap for ideas)

babygirl knows what I'm talkin' bout.

don't try the finger up the butt thing unless you have lube and a glove on, use lots of lube, lots and lots of lube, rub around it, don't poke straight in, kind of like how you would want to be eased into it, don't be scared, just be careful.