Maybe we misunderstood each other on the word bed, bedroom in general maybe, and not the bed itself. I think were talking about the same thing, it could be the living room for that matter, or on top of the washing machine.

No offense, but if I feel like rough sex, if thats how im feeling, I will not force that on her in any way through guilt, complaining, or how I am feeling no matter what.

I mean how could I want rough sex if thats how I am feeling when she is in a loving mood? or has on a pair of pajamas and is on her period? She may even say yes but she will not enjoy that or consider that good sex even though the I did.

Their emotional states are more complex than a guys and for me, and just speaking for myself, its better if I make the adjustment than her. Im still having sex its just a variation so its not a big deal to me.

Women secretly resent a guy having his way when she is in a different mood or no mood. She may go along with that, but wont tell you, and I strongly believe thats one of the main reasons they start looking at other men due to long periods of resentment.

I mean what a guy wants is important too, sure, I agree with you in what your saying.

But me personally, I dont go against the mood at hand. I think this is the very reason that woman are always talking about "the mood". "depends on my mood" etc. I think they are looking for respect of the mood.

The relationship is on her turf the way I see it and 90% of the time they are the ones who decide when its over and when she does cheat she will justify the reasons why.

As far as communication and guiding in the right direction. Thats what its all about.

Once again no offense brother. We are just different in approach. I Respect your opinion though.