well when i first get a g/f it turns me on to not kiss on the first 3-4 dates but i will find myself caressing thier back, stomak and face very lightly with my fingertips also licking with the tip of my tounge and kissing gently in those areas then look very seriously like im going to kiss them and get close enough so breath is felt then kiss thier cheek or eyelids..anyway im rambling..truely my turn ons are girls that arn't stupid VERY HARD TO COME BY im talkin like 1 in 100 max..no offence but its true..also have a hardcore BDSM fetish