thanks for that hempy,
still havent found the cat and worry as his home is quite far away and there are too many roads round where he lives feel so shit wouldnt be so bad but he got out from a third floor window!! mad cat jumped out during the night i'm pretty sure he's not hurt as i'm sure if he was i'd have found him.
as for my daughter she's only four and i know she'll be home soon and back to normal me her and her brother but she tells me all the time she wants to live with her dad! i hate that we are a broken family i never wanted my ids to have that but unfortunatly i couldn't control their dad he chose to wal away.