Ollah gents!

This is topic #7 concerning dating and the concept of trust.

This is an important issue in dating. What does she mean by this and what is the test at hand for you to properly respond to when she brings up the issue?, which she will, in my case 100 percent of the time from past experience, at a certain time when she wants to move forward.

Men rarely bring up the issue and typically respond to it wrong by saying something such as, "you can trust me". That ranks right up there by saying "I love you on the second date". She interprets this as cheap words.

Heres a look at why this is so important. The dictionary only gives vague meanings of the word and its real meaning and sub values.

When she is referring to the word or value of trust she is talking about the following things that I call the four sisters of trust.

Trust to her means, (and you as well after reading this):

Honesty: You tell the truth.
Integrity: You do what you said you will do.
fidelity: You are emotionally and sexually loyal.
Reliability: You are there emotionally and/or physically to do things.

Trust is important in that it is the absolute foundation on which a relationship is built. Intimacy, (both sexual and non-sexual cant exist at all without it in a relationship). Getting dings in anyone of these areas causes her to not "trust" you.

When she brings up the issue of trust what is the test? It is not for you to say, "you can trust me". Its more important that you memorize the four sisters of trust and be prepared for it ahead of time when the topic comes up, which it will.

So instead of saying "you can trust me" say this,

"So when your talking about trust what you are saying is that Honesty, Integrity, Fidelity, and Reliability are important to you, that is very important to me also".

By doing this she will be understood that you understand the parameters of the word and by saying its important to you also shows that you are also to be respected in the trust department.

Remember in a womans world she cant love you if she doesnt respect you. Saying "you can trust me", shows no respect for yourself. Trust is a two way street. Trust is what one says to you, equals what that person does when you are not around.

Trust is unique in that it has the ability for you to raise her interest level in you. Her interest level and her comfort level are two important things to remember when dealing with women.

Can she love you 100 percent if she can only trust you 80 percent? Interest level therefore is a degree of feeling toward you. Getting dings in the trust department causes resentment, the silent relationship killer. Its a slow process and works like termites. Sooner or later the house will cave in.

Its difficult if not impossible for her to trust again once you have made mistakes in the areas of trust. She may or may not bring the issue up. Some women harbor resentment for a long time and dont forget, (which is even worse). If she does bring up the issue of a ding in the trust department review my post, "diffusing the angry woman" to help restore trust correctly, and make sure that she forgives you, so that resentment is not held. This might take some time.

The best way to end a bad habit is to not start it in the first place.

You have to back up trust on your end as well and be prepared to either forgive or walk and not look back, it just depends on you or the situation. But it is important to be respected on this issue as it is just not her issue.


Your body language tip of the day:

When your walking down a city street with your woman. Keep her on the side of the sidewalk where the buildings and shops are while you are on the side closest to the traffic side. You want to lead the pace about 2 or 3 steps slightly faster than her.

I see guys walking down the street and she is on the traffic side and he is closest to building side and she is walking slightly faster than him. Wrong.

When you do this properly the body language conveys two things.

A. You are confident.
B. You are protecting her,( but not in a possessive way) from cat calls/staring from the traffic side.

Think about it guys put yourself in the womens shoes for a minute. Doesnt it seem akward when not done properly?


Your womanese tip of the day:

"I Love you", that is womanese for, "Its your turn to say it".

But dont confirm it with those words "I love you", I want you to remain a challenge. Word it however you want without confirmation such as "I have strong feelings for you". Its important to continually challenge her emotionally with hope and a little bit of doubt of where she stands with you. I want miss right to be head over heals for you not bored with conformation.


That be your tip O' the day. LLLLLLLLLLLLLLater!
Ganjasaurusrex Reviewed by Ganjasaurusrex on . Dating: "you can trust me" Ollah gents! This is topic #7 concerning dating and the concept of trust. This is an important issue in dating. What does she mean by this and what is the test at hand for you to properly respond to when she brings up the issue?, which she will, in my case 100 percent of the time from past experience, at a certain time when she wants to move forward. Men rarely bring up the issue and typically respond to it wrong by saying something such as, "you can trust me". That ranks right up Rating: 5