First time was a nightmare. I was 19 and she was 18. We met because her best friend was my best friend's girlfriend. They wanted us to get together and after spending so much time around each other it just sort of happened. After a year her family moved away so we decided to get an apartment together. Two years later we got married, mostly because it just seemed the thing to do. I don't think either of us really wanted to but after three years together, well... we were stupid. We were both working and going to school full time and really didn't spend any time together. This probably helped us stay together for as long as we did. It wasn't good and the small amount of time we actually had together was usually spent fighting. After two years she moved out and we were "seperated"

About six or seven months after my first wife and I had seperated I met a wonderful woman who I was instantly drawn to. Fortunately she felt the same. If there really is such a thing as "love at first sight" this was it. I didn't want to have another realtionship, especially since I was still technically married, but I just knew this was the woman I was meant to be with for the rest of my life. Within two months I had started to finalize my divorce and start planning my new wedding. Everyone thought I was crazy, including myself, but I didn't care.

That was more than 9 years ago and I still fell the same about my second wife as I did the day I married her. We have a wonderful two year old daughter and really couldn't be happier. I know 100% that my decision was the right one even though it was a bit hasty.


I've always wondered how divorce rates compare for those couples that get married right away, say within 6-12 months after meeting, and those who marry several years after getting together. I'm sure a lot those ones year hear about who drive to Las Vegas the night of their first daye have a high failure rate. But the ones like me and my wife, who feel so strongly after one or two months, I'd bet the rate is actually pretty low. What do you think??