you just totally opened my mind and made me understand... the node is what is formed between the main stem going up.. and them stem going out.. which makes your leaf.. that's the node if im correct and it does have 2 string things coming out of the sides.. on all the places i've looked that's what i've seen.. so that's a female.. hmm.. we'll keep it going for a few more weeks so I can be sure that's exactly what it is.. I didn't realize that.. :\.. to much pot.. i'll also get a pic of what i'm talking about so we can double check

thanks