fuck all that jack off before hand crap turtle420 was right do it with your girl on a regular basis and you should start to build up.also it helps to tell yourself mentally when you have sex that this is for her.your whole goal is to not focus on the feeling in your cock and see what happens.works for me.see i figure it like this wemen generally take longer to come and as for me im going to come no matter what and in this case better late than sooner.eventually it will get to the point when,when you see her comeing youll come.seeing all those funy faces she makes and knowing i did that just does it for me.good luck to ya..z