ScarlettCrush, u make a very good point...really well put! And I know if I was someone else listening to some girl whining about her loser fiance I would tell her exactly what you said (not as beautifully put as u) but nevertheless I would have told her to drop the dead weight. But I really think hes making an effort. I'm not back with him, but i'll listen to him when I see him and let him make his point before I do anything. I trust my instincts because everytime I sense somethings not right, it generally isn't...so i'll make sure I make the right decision for me at Xmas...Again, thank u for your point and I will keep in mind what you've said..All of you.

And Mellow Mood...he said he sent those messages because me and him had a fight and he was angry...so I asked him..'everytime ur angry at me ur gonna send a text to ur ex?' He went all quiet so I dunno..I would call her up as ScarlettCrush said but I really don't want to cause any more problems.. She called me up when me and him first got together and she started making these noises down the phone (like she was orgasming) Nice! Then she started messaging me saying she has my mothers number and all this. So I just wanna leave it with her...I really don't wanna get more involved than I already am.