Ok..this is long but I need advice

[KottonMouthSara]

I will...asshole (not u..him) Goodnight!!!!!

[Lily420]

Good for you girl, kick his ass to the curb thats enough of his bullshit and toke on! :smokin:

[king kong bong]

maybe you should give him the american history x curb treatment.j/k
no im not
ahahaha

[SensiRide]

Hey Sara
:thumbsup:

This guy thinks he is getting the best of both worlds. You are worth more than that so end it and move on - obviously you wont get over it straight away but I guarantee you there will be someone out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated, in fact, judging by your photo, there will be a queue of guys lining up for you so dont waste your time on your current boyfriend, you wont be able to trust him and you dont want to wait till you are married with a kid or two before this incident will come up in future arguments. Good Luck! Let us know how you get on

[KottonMouthSara]

Hey Sara
:thumbsup:

This guy thinks he is getting the best of both worlds. You are worth more than that so end it and move on - obviously you wont get over it straight away but I guarantee you there will be someone out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated, in fact, judging by your photo, there will be a queue of guys lining up for you so dont waste your time on your current boyfriend, you wont be able to trust him and you dont want to wait till you are married with a kid or two before this incident will come up in future arguments. Good Luck! Let us know how you get on

Awww thats so sweet....you guuuys

Well...I called him up today....and he was giving me some bs about how he called her for some backed up taxes or something...wasn't really paying attention. I really dunno what to do...hes coming to visit me in Belgium this Xmas and hes already booked his ticket...so i think i'll have a proper talk with him face to face then. He started saying how it was only this month he has talked to her loads because of the tax thing and he will bring me his phone records to prove it. So i dunno...but no worries i'll go with my instincts as soon as i get a feeling that somethings not right...but right now i'm just gonna see what will happen in december...Men huh? lol

[ScarlettCrush]

if you know her number, talk to her and listen to her. Not every crazy ex really is crazy, I know because I've been the "insane ex" before in a very similar situation. If he loves you then he will talk with her on three way so you can listen and tell her that it is over, ect. Whatever you need to make it good. If he loved you, then you would never doubt him because you would know by his actions that he loved you. Looks like his mouth keeps saying I love you, but what he does points straight to loser. You know how to treat someone when you love them, so does he treat you like he loves you?
I would not see him over the holidays if I where you, this guy seems like a serious loser and you deserve better. You can do better, you are worth more, you are a beautiful, intelligent woman, you do not need this dog to drag you down and give you fleas.
Judge a man on his actions, not his words. Stop listening to him, and look at him.

[mellow mood]

ask him why he sent those messages to his ex

[KottonMouthSara]

ScarlettCrush, u make a very good point...really well put! And I know if I was someone else listening to some girl whining about her loser fiance I would tell her exactly what you said (not as beautifully put as u) but nevertheless I would have told her to drop the dead weight. But I really think hes making an effort. I'm not back with him, but i'll listen to him when I see him and let him make his point before I do anything. I trust my instincts because everytime I sense somethings not right, it generally isn't...so i'll make sure I make the right decision for me at Xmas...Again, thank u for your point and I will keep in mind what you've said..All of you.

And Mellow Mood...he said he sent those messages because me and him had a fight and he was angry...so I asked him..'everytime ur angry at me ur gonna send a text to ur ex?' He went all quiet so I dunno..I would call her up as ScarlettCrush said but I really don't want to cause any more problems.. She called me up when me and him first got together and she started making these noises down the phone (like she was orgasming) Nice! Then she started messaging me saying she has my mothers number and all this. So I just wanna leave it with her...I really don't wanna get more involved than I already am.

[420purplehaze420]

if because of one fight, he starts kissin his ex's ass he obviously is a loser, dont waste any more time with him....people tend to use lying like its a natural resource over here

[zman0185]

hey ill be honest i didnt read every last thing youve been saying but i think ive heard enough.ive been with my girl for 4 years now and a year of it was long distance and problems did happen.and the one thing ive come to realize is this..if there are any problems at all long distance..they are much much worse than they seem.trust me if youve caught him doing somethin sneaky already then i garrunteee hes doing 100 times worse things.i know i was just like him(ya ya im an asshole).do yourself a favor and drop his lame ass.youll be saving yourself from one whining excuse after another and you will ALWAYS wonder what hes been hiding and you will NEVER be able to trust someone like that.just my opinion sorry if its tough to hear..ps im not an asshole anymore.hurting others like that always comes back on you...zz