Hey chrisinallen. Sounds like you are like a lot of us. There are a LOT more people in their 30's and even much older who still much prefer to smoke a bit rather than drink or use tobacco. Unforunately, most folks in our demographic become more and more reclusive about it, for fear of losing jobs.

Making the first step to meet someone from the forums is a biggie. Everyone is scared that they're being scammed by someone who could ruin things for them. It probably would be safe to just meet over coffee or a burger, as you suggested, and just get to know that the other person is for real and not LEO.

I hope things work out for you and that you're able to locate something tasty soon.
Onward!