Tilde, I disagree because there are many animals in the wild that mate for life. Men just forget about them when they are trying to justify behaving like assholes. And not all men jack off to porn, my husband doesn't even watch porn because it's so fake...although he likes Playboy's ametaur home videos, but so do I.

All, I'm saying is Nancy's man knows this stuff bugs her and yet he still continues to do it and he shouldn't. If I knew something made someone else very uncomfortable and made them feel bad about themselves, I wouldn't do it. That's it, if he knows it hurts Nancy, he shouldn't do it. The secret to a lasting relationship is simple and easy, treat your mate as you wish to be treated. If her bf felt bad when Nancy went to an all male revue (not that she would), she probably wouldn't do it again.

The problem with saying "all me do it, so don't get upset" is that she DOES get upset about it. Just because "all men do it" doesn't make it right or make Nancy feel any better. Besides, how can you be turned on by a skanky whore with big fake boobs who has sex for a living? They are being paid to act turned on...that right there is a turn off and I am bi. I love beautiful women, but not fake sluts. A male director is telling them when to moan, when to move their bodies, etc. I'd much rather have a nice warm real body than trying to get off by watching the TV.

Respect your girl's wishes and she might be willing to do more than you ever thought. Knowing you fantasize about other women can make her feel she doesn't trust you, that if you actually met this chick you might actually do it. Once a women feels unattractive she starts to feel jealous, then she starts to distrust, then she gets rid of you and you will be dating your hand. Keep your porn and who you would like to screw to yourself out of respect for someone else's feelings, after all, you do care how she feels, right?