In ways it sounds like your both obsessive about the two different topics, I don't think it is a good atmosphere for a relationship myself, and would probably leave it. I know I'm a man, and I have seen/watched porn, but never has it come before any of my g/f's, infact I avoid it almost completely when I'm in a relationship. The simple thing is, both sides of the sex do the same things, maybe not pertaining to porn, but they do things that really hurt each other, and do it on purpose. The thing I can't understand is, why a women would cheat and hurt a man who in most cases worships the ground they walk upon (it's a little bit of an exageration, but hopefully you get the meaning) and sticks with the man who treats them like the toilet paper caught between there cheecks. I don't mean offense to any one out there, but really, examine your life and see where your going to. Do you want to be with this person and go through this stuff all the time, or do you want to live your life to the best of your ability. Real love is not changing the person, but trying to and then accept what can't be changed, if it can't be accepted then it is not healthy and should be left behind. I myself have been hurt, not looked at a single woman in the way most men do, nor comment (yes I may be an exception to the rule) on the women, yet I've heard my own g/f's, people who told me they love me and that I'm the world and all that type of hogwash, say "ohh I'd like to get him in the sack" and what not, right in front of me. You know it really peed me off to an extreme, yet I loved the person and just accepted it as being a normal human reaction. Now I had wished I took the que as what it was and left, it would have saved me alot of heart ache. I'm single now, and most of the time I enjoy my life, I feel lonely at times, and it hurts to remember how I felt when there was someone in my life, but I wouldn't trade this for being hurt again, and nether would I trade my experience's, because now I know better. You've got to draw the line somwhere and stand for yourself, you know the answers to your own questions, now just take the obvious step. People won't change in a day or two, it takes decades, and then that may not be enough. You need to live your life, you are the one that decides how you live it.