question directed at women but men can respond

[rastaman]

Some guys just love porn, its a adiction, but he shouldn't have told the world about it and made a post

[maryjanemama]

Well, Nancy, I guess you should listen to Sawleaf. He seems to be the most informed and honest. I have no idea how guys feel...why your bf finds porn stars so desirable is beyond me, but if he's bored and your uncomfortable, then it sounds like a no win situation. I just passed my ex bf crossing the road before and I felt like he was stepping on my throat with his big work boot. I swear I couldn't breath...why does he have to be sooo beautiful? Anyway, he likes really, really, skinny girls, you know, the ones that are so thin they look unhealthy? He broke up with me for this chick that was a coke head and weighed about 90 pounds (I'm serious). I was devastated. I couldn't eat. I couldn't function. How could he like her over me? I am 65 million times better looking! She has buck teeth and no fashion sense! She snorts coke for breakfast! Aaaaaaah.

Anyway, I realized that his love of coke heads proved that he's the one with the problem. The best part ever was when he saw my best friend in a bar (3 years later!) and told her that he wished he and I would get back together. Probably a boat load of crap, but, see? He saw the error of his ways. All I'm saying is that if your bf likes these kinds of girls it may mean that that's where he is as far as relationships go. He wants some porn chick to f#*! and walk away...not a nice girl. Does this make sense?

Unfortunaly, on my way back down the road, I did not see my ex. I had planned on swerving towards him, just to scare him and see if I could make him piss his pants. Why does he have to be soooo hot? Oh, yeah, and 4 years later he is still alone.

[sawleaf]

Well everyone's got their problems. I've never met a perfect person yet.

[nancyrenee]

Well he says I'm a freak in bed. There really isn't anything I won't do. I don't think you should have any limits if there are two consenting parties and you are in love with eachother. It's just that when I'm not with him and he wants to get a nut off instead of jacking off thinking of me he jacks off to porn stars. He looks at having a lot of porn as something fun. And wished I would partake in the viewing. I'm personally offended by the treatment of women in porn industries. I don't find anything sexually arousing by watching two strangers fuck eachother. My bf isn't an 18 year old hormone driven sex pot. He's 28 years old. We both feel the relationship is comfortable the sex is good. But the porn is sooooooooooo annoying. And he won't get rid of it!

[maryjanemama]

Nancy, you make my head spin. First you say you're not interested in sex, you don't like oral sex. On other posts you say how you don't even think about sex, you scored a 55 on the How Kinky Are You test. Now you're a freak in bed and there's nothing you won't do. What the hell? I know you're depressed but...

At first I defended your concerns because they seemed rational. Now I think your bf watches porn to drown out your whining and indecisive bitching.

[nancyrenee]

LOL. Let me clear this up. No I'm not a big fan of sex. I like having sex with people I'm in love with. But not very often. I pretend to like it and I do things I don't think are very interesting just to make my bf happy. He thinks i'm a freak in bed. But really I'm just doing it to satisfy him and on the inside i'm thinking about.......shopping? Smoking up? But he doesn't know that. Yeah sometimes I luck up and be in the mood and want to take the trouble to let myself get all aroused and actually have a real "O" but usually I just want to do it and get it done. I do find him sexually attractive. I just don't like sex. The main reason i dont like sex is because it's painful for me with my whole bladder condition. It aggrivates it as well. I know that when I have sex it's going to hurt the next morning. I am a nagging bitch. I do know this. I'm relentless when it comes to nagging. But you have to admit that when a guy has as much porn as my bf has and fantasizes about other women and wants me to participate in watching that crap then there is something wrong. oh yeah he thinks i should eat pussy as well. And when I say "no I wouldn't want to do that" he says I'm being a typical girly girl. Well I'm am a girly girl! And when I say I wouldn't want to eat another pussy I think I mean it. WTF is up with that?

[gs8778]

I found this to be amusing. At least they are being paid for their services.

Why should he masturbate to these sluts that get paid to have sex and fake orgasms?

I pretend to like it and I do things I don't think are very interesting. But really I'm just doing it to satisfy him and on the inside i'm thinking about.......shopping? Smoking up? Yeah sometimes I luck up and be in the mood and want to take the trouble to let myself get all aroused and actually have a real "O" but usually I just want to do it and get it done

[nancyrenee]

the difference in the two is we love eachother. and porn stars don't. This thread is offtopic now. I'm tired of talking about it.

[Ammie]

ok the jealous bitch thing was outta line but the rest i dont see the problem hes just lookin not fuckin all men are gunna do that and the ones that say they wont are liein. y dont u try to give him sumthing to look at get dressed all sexy give him a nice lil show or whatever your into. and if he like watchin porn watch it with him act them out thats always fun or make your own and have him watch your there are so many ways to fix this and make it to both of your advantages. hang in there its all good

[nancyrenee]

I can't watch porn. I have spoken out in front of groups about how the porn industry is degrading to women. And written a few papers discussing how porn has ruined peoples lives. I can't just up and go watch one and pretend it gets me off. Watching porn goes against my personal beliefs. I do dress nice. I don't dress slutty like the women you see in porn. I'm not going to go to the grocery store with no panties on. Sorry that's really trashy. I don't really want to make a porn. You never know that stuff can end up in the wrong hands. I don't need anything like some home grown porn hanging over my head if we break up. I can't have that shit ending up on kazaa. No not a good idea. Why can't men just not be a pig about it? They have a pussy that's right there in front of them. A real live pussy. But yet it's not enough. They still have to view other women naked and watch crap like "double penetration in the ass" wtf is that shit? Two dicks in your ass? You wouldn't shit right for a month. And men go for that stuff too. It's a real turnoff to me with all his porn and crap. Why can't men be normal? Here is a thought! Ladies the next time your man suggests anal sex just shove a cucumber in his asshole while he's sleeping. Maybe he will learn his lesson.