Mojavpa, i know how you feel. I think that at some point you will just want to let your father know. If you're staying at home still, now might not be the time to tell him. For a while i didn't tell my parents (and still haven't officially told my father). I told myself, "My brothers and sisters don't come out at Heterosexual or say 'Mom, Dad, I like red heads,' so why should i tell them i'm gay." Eventually i just told everyone as if it wasn't anything strange.

But you know your situation. Just from experience and from friends, it might be best to wait until you are out of the house (especially if your dad decides to flip out).

One thing we all have to remember (gay, Straight, whatever) is that our life isn't here to make our parent's happy. They lived their lives, they made their own decisions, so we should be able to live our own. Parents are fucked up like that, they forget that once in their life they wanted to live their own life and make themselves happy.

those are my thoughts.