pressured?

[cannabis2]

im not that kind of person to leave a note id rather speak to her face to face but id apologise for making her feel uncomfortable cause she was very shy

cannabis2 Reviewed by cannabis2 on 09-07-2005. pressured? ok today i saw a nice girl in working in the supermarket, and she was just about to finish. so i waited around outside hoping she would walk past then, she sat down on a bench, and i went over to her and said hello, she replied saying hi or something, then i asked her what she was doing this evening and i sensed that she was very uncomfortable in the situation, by the way she was talking. do you think i made her feel that way or she just wasnt very confident with strangers or people hitting on Rating: 5

[cannabis2]

thanks for the response everyone, apart from the smart arse (mellow mood)

[lizka4200]

getting with a bunch of guys/girls after a while gets annoying u kinda want to settle down and have the occasional one night fuck

[cannabis2]

what do you mean by that?

[mellow mood]

lol smart arse

cmon

no sense of humour

haha

[ADaisyChain]

Well, if that was how you started then that's definately kinda creepy. You gotta get to know a person before you ask if they wanna do something with you. Even if getting to know them is like, a 5 minute chat that started for a reason. If the first thing that came out of your mouth was "What are you doing this evening", she was most likely intimidated. If it's going to haunt you, go ahead and say sorry if I came on a little strong the other day or something like that. -laughs- I don't know. Otherwise if it's not going to bother you, just leave it as is. There are lots of nice girls out there. Just take it as a learning experience and pick another nice girl. :S If you really want this nice girl, apologize for coming on too strong and try a different tactic. Maybe wait until you've talked a few times ((keep it light)) and ask for her email or something.

I was just in a similar situation, I came on too strong ((via email)) and she backed off. Her last email to me was "Sorry, been very busy." I just moved on.

[cannabis2]

i think i will apologise to her but i did have a little chat with her about 15 mins previous could someone tell me why she may of been intimitated preferably girls as your most likely to give me the most accurate reason

[slipknotpsycho]

i sat wondering why and how you left some letters un-bolded, then i realized what you were doing >.> im smart can i have a cookie?

[Cheery Cherry]

See, the thing is...it's really difficult to tell if she was intimidated, shy or whatever because for me, it's all in the body language. It's what she's NOT saying. Personally for me, if I was single and looking, and some guy came up to me and asked to go for a walk around town, depending on HOW you approached me, I would. I wouldn't be creeped out or anything. Of course, I'm not shy. Like I said, I would try to put the ball in her court to see if she's interested.

[ADaisyChain]

i sat wondering why and how you left some letters un-bolded, then i realized what you were doing >.> im smart can i have a cookie?

My hypnotic trickery can't fool you! Detective Psycho. Here's 2 cookies. I'm increasing your rank.


Guy with girl problems: If you had a 15 minute chat she probably wasn't intimidated. More likely shy or not trusting or something if that was the case. Especially if the conversation flowed smoothly until that point.

Maybe don't apologize, and just try a different approach. Get into a really interesting conversation with her and then half way through check your watch and tell her you have to go. Then ask if she'd wanna continue it via email or something. Just keep it smooth. People like to feel like they're 'hitting it off' with someone before away personal information or are willing to see you alone.

You asked why that statement might be intimidating. I'm a guy, so not what you asked for. But Im typing so I'm going to continue.

When alot of guys say "Do you want to do something tonight?" aka "What are you doing this evening." Alot of guys mean "Interested in getting to know eachother a little and hopefully fucking?"

Alot of guys just have gettin into pants on their mind. Alot of girls realize this. Not saying that's what was on your mind, just saying if she was intimidated ((and I'm not sure she was anymore with the addition of the 15 minute preperation talk)) she could have mis-read you.