ammie...my boyfriend has a kid and well its a girl but i could kind of relate to your husbands actions...you always want the kid to be the best they can at whatever they are doing....that is why ur husband overeacted....u should tell ur husband that u dont want to seem like u guys are contradciting eachother and instead think of something better so u can go to your son and tell him this is howq its going to be...something like when u do good in practice u can start going out again..or tell me if u want to play football and if he does than tell him he needs to get his head in the game or else it is a waste of all of your time....letting your son not see that you too have to talk it out before you talk to him is a way for him to see that you guys agree on everything and are a family its not good for the kid to see the "arguing" or disaggereing...