Advice.....

[Ammie]

Ok I realize this has nothing to do with cannabis, but if there are any mothers (or fathers) that have any advice to add it would be greatly appreciated.

I have a 7 year old lil boy who just joined football this year. I wanted him to just have fun with it, you know something to get him outta the house and meeting kids his age.

Well yesterday was his first game, and it was goin so good for the first half of it, but then he started gettin bored and not payin attention. The coach kept yelling and him to hussle and focus which i can understand.

Anyways at the end of the game the coaches all had a talk with RJ ( my son) and told him that until he can focus on the game and not eveything else that he would lose his starting spot.

As his mother i tried to reassure him and let him know that it was ok and that he just needed to pay more attention to the game and less on everything or everyone around him. I tried to explain to him that its just a game and just for fun.

His father on the other hand went off on him. Yelling and screaming actin an idot. Then he told him that he can only worry about school and football there would be no more friends no more outside unless it was foot ball related.

I didnt think that he handled it very well and im not sure what to do. I dont want to contradict his dad but i dont want him to feel like he did sumthing wrong when he just started to have some fun.

If you have any advice i would love to hear it. Im stuck because we dont usally contradict each other when it comes to punisments.

Besides all the coaches told him hes the best player on the team and he can earn his spot back if he hussles in practice this week. so i dont see the big deal. ARGH!!

Ammie Reviewed by Ammie on 08-31-2005. Advice..... Ok I realize this has nothing to do with cannabis, but if there are any mothers (or fathers) that have any advice to add it would be greatly appreciated. I have a 7 year old lil boy who just joined football this year. I wanted him to just have fun with it, you know something to get him outta the house and meeting kids his age. Well yesterday was his first game, and it was goin so good for the first half of it, but then he started gettin bored and not payin attention. The coach kept Rating: 5

[Funkamander]

I think Papa's got some decisions to rethink. That's strait up BULLSHIT. I can understand TALKING to the kid about putting his head in the game, but nothing in his life except school and football? Go beat the dad over the head with a copy of Varsity Blues. (VHS, a DVD will just break right away)

[m4o2n0a]

I also have a 7yr old (girl). Maybe football isnt exactly his cup of tea. Even though he might be good at it, it doesnt mean that he will grow to like it. I have found it useful to talk to her and ask her what interests her that way she will be excited to go to her dance class or her karate class instead of it just being something I wouldve liked her to do.

I understand your husbands frustration, but I think his actions may only lead your son to have low self esteem. Or even a tad confused. Sometimes we have to let the kids be kids and develop into theirselves, you know grow a lil character and then just encourage them in whatever it is they find interesting.

I know how important it is to try to keep a child that age preoccupied in some extra curricular activity but we dont want to make that activity seem like something they may potentially grow to hate because of the sportsmanship envolved.

He may just as well need a lil time to understand the game fully as well.

I would definately have a sit down with your significant other and talk about how to approach him with a more appealing approach or see if maybe their is something else he might like.

Good luck!


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Mona

[tylerkane]

Your husband sounds lovely, going off on his little 7 year old son

[Fattie]

The problem lies with the father. You should talk to him about it.

[mellow mood]

yes, dad needs to review his education methods i guess

[NowhereMan]

i mean this will all my heart
tell the dickhead lay off the kid ,he is a kid not in the NFL
and being a prick like that will do one thing
make the kid hate something he probly likes,go ahead turn it into a fucking chore.he should be pep talking him not brow-beating

he is a jerk ammie,
you need to know my friend, sometimes daddy's try to live out lil sports fantasy's thru thier kids,when the kid does good it goes way beyond pride

its like they say,"look at mini me go" them's my genes,
my sperm scored the winning TD ect ect.

having pride in ya kid and having self serving bragging rights is what they mix up and its sad really to me becuase the kid always wants to please the assho'
good luck

[ScarlettCrush]

Try not to critisize Mr Ammie too much ya'll. I know the behavior might bring back some flashbacks, specially for you guys, but remember she loves the lug and he is only human. Maybe his dad was like that, maybe he was having a bad day, maybe he was constipated, maybe he regrets not concentrating as much on his own talent, whatever..
less critisism, more advice

obviously she should talk to him, and he should probably talk to his son...help her figure out what to say and how to handle the situation as a parent.
I think you should talk to the husband, urge him to talk with his son apologize for yelling at him, assure his son that he loves him and is proud of his effort. Tell him that he seems to be good at football, and if he concentrated a little more on what's going on he might be the star player, team captain ect.
I think sports teaches you how to work with others, how to be supportive in a team and instills a sense of commitment, belonging and accomplishment that is very important to self esteem. Concentrating on the event is part of playing the sport, you can't just show up you have to pay attention.

[a. beezy]

Daddy needs to chill. Really. If your kid likes football at all, pressure like that will ruin it for him completely. Tell him how u feel.

[Canadabis]

Well I was a lazy undisciplined kid with amazing skills at just about everything I did.
I was great ins sprots, school all that sort of stuff. But I was inconsitent, and I did not pay attention...
I started doing worse and worse in life, not paying attention, finding things around me mroe interesting then what I was doing etc...
I really wish my father had instilled more discipline in me by forcing me to take my martial arts and sports more seriously, Im only now at 20 back in great shape and putting an all out effort into life.
You could actually damage his ability to survive by allowing him to become a space cadet when hes bored.
I think an important thing to teach him, is that even though he may be bored, otehr kids are still trying their absoloute best, and that they NEED him, and it is HIS DUTY to help them have fun and succeed, and that is waht it is to be a member of a team, you serve everyone. Epecially if your the "best" then you owe everyone esle more of yourself, because you CAN do what they need you to do.
That is my 2 cents, thats like .166 american, dunno if that still counts, good luck with your pup