Foreplay is the first thing to go after marriage for alot of people. I've been married 26 yrs, and sometimes we get lazy, especially when our lives get busy, and time is short.

Right now, I'd say we spend 20-30 minutes of foreplay. It varies because we like it to be different each time: things like kissing, massage, touching and licking. Did I mention sucking ? The only rule is that we both give and receive.

I think that the best approach, if you can do it, is not to expect or schedule sex. Let each person work for it: flirt, make-out, make your way on the bases .... That can be the start of foreplay. If things get hot, run like hell to the bedroom and make it hotter.

Sex should be spontaneous and always changing. Try new positions or locations.