Hi Mellow Mood!

Well, the easiest way for you to find it is if you put your finger inside the woman (just to get your finger wet because personally for me, it hurts to have a dry finger touch my clitoris), pull the finger out and move your finger towards the top of the woman's pussy. You will feel a little nub...that's the clitoris. You can also turn on the lights or have a candle or two lit and go down there, spread her lips and you will see at the top of her pussy, a little lump...that's the clitoris.

I hope that helps.