Fighting with Parents

[calve]

i think someday everyone at this community should have a huge trip all planned so we can all toke together and forget about all our problems

[Ousted]

Don't worry about it man... mother's need children for power, eventually she will brake down, or something will. Parents forget that it is their damn fault for havin kids, and the kid owes them NOTHING... but most kids forget, your parents don't have to do a damn thing for you other than clothe, school, feed, and house you.

My mother has treated me the exact same since i graduated high school... no respect... she doesn't see me as an equal individual, even though as a male adult, i am superior to her in this world (we all know the truth) parents are VERY VERY reluctant to give up power or dominance... which is why alot of parents maintain a monetary hold on most of their children for years after they have left their household. As i grow older and pay more and more attention to my friends, or others parental relationships i see this true... parents (or human beings for this matter) cannot seem to admit inferiority... the child can't admit he is inferior in aspect, and the parents can't do the same... people simply forget... we are all equal, no mater the age or experience... don't believe me, shoot somebody who is rich, intelligent and experienced in the arm, then shoot a poor, young, dumb dude in the same spot.... similar results... just more swearing from the kid

I spit on this post.

You are inferior to your mother. You probably wouldn't have as many problems if you gave her the recognition and respect she deserves instead of trying to make everyone believe you are equal to her. You're not. She is above you in experience, age, and probably intelligence as well. You, a little know nothing kid, attempting to pass off that you're equal to her is demeaning to her. Im sure the only one who thinks you're an equal with your mother is you. No wonder she cant muster up the strength or love to respect you given your blatent degradation of her.

If you get nothing from my post please get this: Give your mother her kudos for being more experienced, more intelligent, and more wordly than you. I promise you if you wouldn't play the "Im better than you are" or "Im the same as you are even though I havent been on this planet as long as you have or experienced the things you have" bullshit, she would probably respect you. Its hard to respect someone who is so full of themselves they actually believe and voice that they are of equal or greater importance than someone else, an adult. Especially if its your child who still lives at home. If my child ever tried to say that we were equals, I would be more inclined to put him/her in her place than to start giving away my respect.

You want respect, you give respect. Want people to not respect you, then be sure to continue to disrespect them. There is no way to manipulate that age-old concept any other way. You'll lose trying.

[Fengzi]

When I was a teenager I fought with my parents all the time. Back then I couldn't stand them and couldn't wait to move out of the house which I did when I was 18. Now, however, I realize that they actually were very good parents and just wanted what was best for me.

Most teenagers (myself included) think they know everything. I'll give credit where it's due and admit that most kids do know a lot more than most adults give them credit for. Kids today are smart and there is no denying it. Intelligence and experience are two very different things, however, and experience is what teenagers lack.

As a teenager your whole world is in front of you. You can fuck up now because you can always change things in your future. Then one day, in your late 20's or early 30's, you wake up and realize that the future has arrived, and its like getting hit with a fucking brick. You've made your bed and are lying in it but, unfortunately, it's not as comfy as you thought it would be. Parents know this feeling, teenagers don't, and can't.

Parents know how hard it is to find a rewarding career. Not a job, but a career that you stick with and make a living from. Parents know what it is like to worry about losing their job and how they would make ends meet if they do. Parents know what it is like to worry about your credit rating. Parents know what it is like to worry about a sick child. Parents know that some of the choices they made as teenagers were wrong and don't want their kids to make the same bad choices.

I won't generalize and say that you're all a bunch of fucked up kids that need to respect your parents. Ousted made some good points but didn't take into account that there are a lot af bad parents out there and a lot of them actually have really great kids. I imagine some of you are in this position but certainly not all of you. I do believe, however, that most parents do love their children and just want what's best for them.

So, if nothing else, realize that there are some things that your parents know that you do not. Chances are, these things are what lead to a lot of the fights you're having with them.

[Ousted]

When I was a teenager I fought with my parents all the time. Back then I couldn't stand them and couldn't wait to move out of the house which I did when I was 18. Now, however, I realize that they actually were very good parents and just wanted what was best for me.

Most teenagers (myself included) think they know everything. I'll give credit where it's due and admit that most kids do know a lot more than most adults give them credit for. Kids today are smart and there is no denying it. Intelligence and experience are two very different things, however, and experience is what teenagers lack.

As a teenager your whole world is in front of you. You can fuck up now because you can always change things in your future. Then one day, in your late 20's or early 30's, you wake up and realize that the future has arrived, and its like getting hit with a fucking brick. You've made your bed and are lying in it but, unfortunately, it's not as comfy as you thought it would be. Parents know this feeling, teenagers don't, and can't.

Parents know how hard it is to find a rewarding career. Not a job, but a career that you stick with and make a living from. Parents know what it is like to worry about losing their job and how they would make ends meet if they do. Parents know what it is like to worry about your credit rating. Parents know what it is like to worry about a sick child. Parents know that some of the choices they made as teenagers were wrong and don't want their kids to make the same bad choices.

Very well said. You articulated the parents POV better than most parents probably can.

I won't generalize and say that you're all a bunch of fucked up kids that need to respect your parents. Ousted made some good points but didn't take into account that there are a lot af bad parents out there and a lot of them actually have really great kids. I imagine some of you are in this position but certainly not all of you. I do believe, however, that most parents do love their children and just want what's best for them.

Eh, I was just replying to HightilIdie. I, unfortunately, am well aware of how many bad parents there are out there. My parents were bad parents. Im not saying unfair parents who didnt "get" me, Im saying bad parents. I dont tell my story to many people, but those few people who know it cant believe that I was able to come out of that hellish life and be the person I am today. Trust me, the hell I lived through wasn't because of a tug of war over getting and giving respect, thats for sure. So, if my response seemed as though I have tunnel vision, I assure you, that absolutely wasn't my intention, as I am well aware that there are bad situations and bad families/parents out there...I just didnt think it was the case with the person I responded to.

[TonyD]

From what i've seen America seems to treat its older teenagers as children, its Very different here people over the age of 16 are treated with respect and spoken to in such a manner. Maybe teenagers are different here? But i can't really condone the way younger people in America area treated as inferior because of their age its a form of discrimination.