Mixed Signals

[NOTEHOOK]

Ok, so I know this girl and she's always all over me, but whenever I try to "make a move" she just tells me I'm her "best guy friend". Then she proceeds to tell me about all the guys she wants to be with, but not me. Am I just stuck or wtf? This sucks lol

NOTEHOOK Reviewed by NOTEHOOK on 08-11-2005. Mixed Signals Ok, so I know this girl and she's always all over me, but whenever I try to "make a move" she just tells me I'm her "best guy friend". Then she proceeds to tell me about all the guys she wants to be with, but not me. Am I just stuck or wtf? This sucks lol Rating: 5

[kid rediculous]

I had a similar problem a while ago. This girl would be all over me and then be like your such a good friend. This is what I did: go to a party with her and then hook up with a girl that is not as hot as she is (I'm not talkin' ugly I'm talking like a 6 or 7). Then the next day tell her how great it was. She'll be on your cock in a hot minute.

I'm having the same problem now though too. I always go over my friends house to drink and smoke and have a good time and since he's 23 his parents don't care whats going on (I'm only 17). His 20yr old sister is always all over me but I'm so confused. She is gorgeous, the most beautiful girl I have ever met, and she's so cool too. I just can't seem to close the deal. I know she wants me, but how come she isn't hooking up with me? She always tells me that she thinks I'm so hot and shit and then she'll leave and go to bed. Should I just be like, can I join you or should I just let her go? I slept over the other day (not in the same bed, downstairs) and nothing happened. This is really pissing me off and I was going to start a thread about it but since this ones already here I might as well just post here, since its the same thing. All my friends also think that she wants me too and they all say that she is all over me, but none of us can't figure out why she won't hook up with me. I only have a couple of weeks before we both leave for college and she is going away for a few days so I won't see her for a while.

PLEASE I NEED HELP GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE.

[IrieAllie]

As a female (and a stoned one at that ) Let me tell you something! Although I am NOT proud of it, I TOTALLY enjoy a man who is hard to get. My husband included!!!! I mean, if he's so OBVIOUSLY into me, its really no challenge. Basically, I know it's there for the taking. Now keep in mind that you need to show SOME interest. I mean, don't do the whole "I could give a shit" thing... Talk to her....tell her she looks good. Tell her she can't IMAGINE what would happen if the 2 of you were behind closed doors...better yet, a casual, slow kiss...then walk away. She'll be the one thinking "WTF?" and SHE will pursue YOU. Don't hesitate to flirt with other chicks in her presence--but don't be an asshole about it. Am I being juvenile for a 35 year old? You bet! But it's the games people play. I LOVE when my husband is all over me, then is like "good night." Leaves me baffled...and horny! And we've been MARRIED 9 years!

The worst thing, in my opinion, is a guy who is all googly over a woman, and doesn't present any type of "game". I admit, I love a good game!!!! Then again, my husband says I am too much of a "guy" for his liking. I am NOT into the whole "hold me, talk to me" shit. Let's go have some great sex, a bowl, a few beers--not necessarily in that order--and watch a football game. I don't have time for the "cuddle" shit--I have things to do.

Good luck to you

[NOTEHOOK]

Thanks I'll try it all out lol

[JackNoble]

As a female (and a stoned one at that ) Let me tell you something! Although I am NOT proud of it, I TOTALLY enjoy a man who is hard to get. My husband included!!!! I mean, if he's so OBVIOUSLY into me, its really no challenge. Basically, I know it's there for the taking. Now keep in mind that you need to show SOME interest. I mean, don't do the whole "I could give a shit" thing... Talk to her....tell her she looks good. Tell her she can't IMAGINE what would happen if the 2 of you were behind closed doors...better yet, a casual, slow kiss...then walk away. She'll be the one thinking "WTF?" and SHE will pursue YOU. Don't hesitate to flirt with other chicks in her presence--but don't be an asshole about it. Am I being juvenile for a 35 year old? You bet! But it's the games people play. I LOVE when my husband is all over me, then is like "good night." Leaves me baffled...and horny! And we've been MARRIED 9 years!

The worst thing, in my opinion, is a guy who is all googly over a woman, and doesn't present any type of "game". I admit, I love a good game!!!! Then again, my husband says I am too much of a "guy" for his liking. I am NOT into the whole "hold me, talk to me" shit. Let's go have some great sex, a bowl, a few beers--not necessarily in that order--and watch a football game. I don't have time for the "cuddle" shit--I have things to do.

Good luck to you

Most informative post ever. I'll be trying that nice slow kiss as many times as I can this year.

[mellow mood]

ya it happened to me too. i think the key is exactly wut irie said: if she does look interested, then show to her you are too and tell her gentle words and all. and then i would kiss her. few beers help a lot too, trust me

[IrieAllie]

Damn I miss being young sometimes!!! Age has its advantages, don't get me wrong....but I remember when I was the one dishing out the surprise slow kiss, new years eve 1994....lead to the best sex of my life....

I need a drink. LOL

[Breukelen advocaat]

I had a similar problem a while ago. This girl would be all over me and then be like your such a good friend. This is what I did: go to a party with her and then hook up with a girl that is not as hot as she is (I'm not talkin' ugly I'm talking like a 6 or 7). Then the next day tell her how great it was. She'll be on your cock in a hot minute.

I'm having the same problem now though too. I always go over my friends house to drink and smoke and have a good time and since he's 23 his parents don't care whats going on (I'm only 17). His 20yr old sister is always all over me but I'm so confused. She is gorgeous, the most beautiful girl I have ever met, and she's so cool too. I just can't seem to close the deal. I know she wants me, but how come she isn't hooking up with me? She always tells me that she thinks I'm so hot and shit and then she'll leave and go to bed. Should I just be like, can I join you or should I just let her go? I slept over the other day (not in the same bed, downstairs) and nothing happened. This is really pissing me off and I was going to start a thread about it but since this ones already here I might as well just post here, since its the same thing. All my friends also think that she wants me too and they all say that she is all over me, but none of us can't figure out why she won't hook up with me. I only have a couple of weeks before we both leave for college and she is going away for a few days so I won't see her for a while.

PLEASE I NEED HELP GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVICE.

I would advise you to try something that nobody seems to practice anymore: be a gentleman - at least for a few dates. I KNOW it sounds corny, but it still works. Go on some old-fashioned "dates" - you know, dinner and a movie, bike riding, picnic, the zoo, amusement parks, all that kind of "romantic" stuff. It is YOUR job to "hook up" with her, even though women ultimatly pick us.

Even if all you want is to get laid for a while, it still helps to give them the "you're special" treatment. Send them some flowers, a card, or both Believe me, the greeting card routine has been very good to me lol.


Good luck!

[Not Enough Herb]

^ hmm i dunno

a lot of girls think thats corny and much rather recieve a giant nut then flowers and a greeting card

see what shes like...and if shes the type where u gotta kiss ass

then pucker up my friend!

later

[SpiritualExcess]

Hmm she sounds like she's playing games with you dude.
I had this problem with my so called best friend. This person would flirt and act all sexy, but then if i reciprocated, forget it. Mixed signals suck ass. Next time she's being sexy just be like 'what's up? i thought we were just friends'