Beachguy... yes, Dove is good too, just make sure it's unscented, as regular Dove has a pretty powerful perfume. You're right about the infection thing as well; maybe ask her when the last time she was tested? It must be approached really tactfully & gently, but I would want to know if I were you (or her, for that matter).

I agree with the trimming bit, but the double standard of genders gets a bit frustrating. If only more guys paid as much attention to their personal grooming as they expect of us girls.